ThisIsSparta
Master Don Juan
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I am in a relationship with my wife since 8 years, married since 4 years.
I lived a blue-pilled life until all hell broke loose when my wife started to completely freak out after our son was born 3,5 years ago.
I wont go into all the detail, lets just say she went from Dr. Jekyll to Mr. Hyde a short time after birth(early2017).
For a long time i didnt even know what hit me and i tried the blue-pilled-approach, which meant more appeasment and more fruitless discussions to solve new „problems“ she brought up every few days. Off course this got me nowhere and she just switched up gears and became an even bigger bully, dragging my whole family through sh.t.
Mid 2018 i finally realized that i am getting nowhere and that the situation started to make me sick.
It was then when i found out about the red pill and over the next half year i educated myself in the ways of Rollo T., Coach RedPill, Entreprenours in Cars… etc.etc.
Month after month i started to take less and less sh.t from her, until start 2019 when she decided to move out (to her parents) due to my lack of response to her permanent complaining, taking my beloved son with her.
3 weeks after she moved out, she was crying at me to let her move back in.
I took her back for my son and for me to be with him. If it wasnt for him i would have sent her packing years before that point.
I took her back under certain conditions, also known as „setting the frame“. I have to say, things really improved after she came back. She made an effort to fit in, behaved like a reasonable person and let go of her negative attitudes.
After a few months though, i came to the conclusion, that „the stripes of the tiger dont wash away“. It became clear that she played a role to fit in. It wasnt insight to rational and reasonable thinking that made her behave but she is wearing a mask and the mindset ist still the same as before, just wainting for a chance to pounce when i am off guard or when she thinks she has found new leverage.
The strange part is, she earns more money then me and she will inherit her parents large house(10 miles from my place) one day and due to Austrian laws she has no rights on the properties i owned before marriage. So she isnt here fort he money but still would make life hell for me if i just let her.
I have to be permanent on guard to not have „the frame“ undermined by her continous efforts.
She wants sex as much as she can get out of me, since we are together, that didnt change. She even hassles me for that, in cases she doesnt get it at least 3 times a week.
My desire though for more then 2 or 3 times max a week is diminished. For all the **** she gave me she only serves to fullfill my sexual needs, not the other way arround. And who wants to eat burger all day every day for 8+ years right?
At this point she fullfills 1,5 of the 3 things men need from women, sex and children.
The 3rd thing „domestic comfort“ is not fullfilled, id rather have her gone and me alone with the boy.
I´d rather have more kids, and after she moved back in i thought it would work out in a way i can have more kids with her. But no point in lying to myself anymore, she didnt change, never will and i allways will be fighting her on a daily basis.
I am in more then good shape for my age (42) and i am confident i could get another/better woman to have another kid with and i am confident i can do so for the next 8 years if i wanted to.
My dilemma at the moment is, i am not at the point where the pain suffering her outweighs seeing my son every day.
Another point is, i want to give him as much time as possible to develop his own mind before i let him out to live with his mother alone(in Austria, as in almost every western country, mothers have all rights on the kids) and have her influence him in a bad way about me. I want him in my life for the rest of my life.
The question is, how long can i live like that and how long should i?
How did you guys attack a comparable situation?
I lived a blue-pilled life until all hell broke loose when my wife started to completely freak out after our son was born 3,5 years ago.
I wont go into all the detail, lets just say she went from Dr. Jekyll to Mr. Hyde a short time after birth(early2017).
For a long time i didnt even know what hit me and i tried the blue-pilled-approach, which meant more appeasment and more fruitless discussions to solve new „problems“ she brought up every few days. Off course this got me nowhere and she just switched up gears and became an even bigger bully, dragging my whole family through sh.t.
Mid 2018 i finally realized that i am getting nowhere and that the situation started to make me sick.
It was then when i found out about the red pill and over the next half year i educated myself in the ways of Rollo T., Coach RedPill, Entreprenours in Cars… etc.etc.
Month after month i started to take less and less sh.t from her, until start 2019 when she decided to move out (to her parents) due to my lack of response to her permanent complaining, taking my beloved son with her.
3 weeks after she moved out, she was crying at me to let her move back in.
I took her back for my son and for me to be with him. If it wasnt for him i would have sent her packing years before that point.
I took her back under certain conditions, also known as „setting the frame“. I have to say, things really improved after she came back. She made an effort to fit in, behaved like a reasonable person and let go of her negative attitudes.
After a few months though, i came to the conclusion, that „the stripes of the tiger dont wash away“. It became clear that she played a role to fit in. It wasnt insight to rational and reasonable thinking that made her behave but she is wearing a mask and the mindset ist still the same as before, just wainting for a chance to pounce when i am off guard or when she thinks she has found new leverage.
The strange part is, she earns more money then me and she will inherit her parents large house(10 miles from my place) one day and due to Austrian laws she has no rights on the properties i owned before marriage. So she isnt here fort he money but still would make life hell for me if i just let her.
I have to be permanent on guard to not have „the frame“ undermined by her continous efforts.
She wants sex as much as she can get out of me, since we are together, that didnt change. She even hassles me for that, in cases she doesnt get it at least 3 times a week.
My desire though for more then 2 or 3 times max a week is diminished. For all the **** she gave me she only serves to fullfill my sexual needs, not the other way arround. And who wants to eat burger all day every day for 8+ years right?
At this point she fullfills 1,5 of the 3 things men need from women, sex and children.
The 3rd thing „domestic comfort“ is not fullfilled, id rather have her gone and me alone with the boy.
I´d rather have more kids, and after she moved back in i thought it would work out in a way i can have more kids with her. But no point in lying to myself anymore, she didnt change, never will and i allways will be fighting her on a daily basis.
I am in more then good shape for my age (42) and i am confident i could get another/better woman to have another kid with and i am confident i can do so for the next 8 years if i wanted to.
My dilemma at the moment is, i am not at the point where the pain suffering her outweighs seeing my son every day.
Another point is, i want to give him as much time as possible to develop his own mind before i let him out to live with his mother alone(in Austria, as in almost every western country, mothers have all rights on the kids) and have her influence him in a bad way about me. I want him in my life for the rest of my life.
The question is, how long can i live like that and how long should i?
How did you guys attack a comparable situation?