"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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For the formerly or currently married guys

Knowing what you know now, would you go back in time and get married to the same person again?

  • YES

    Votes: 6 50.0%
  • NO

    Votes: 6 50.0%

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Dash Riprock

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Judgment-free poll. Question is self-explanatory.

Feel free to leave a comment below if you'd like.

Thank you for your vote.

Ciao.

~Dash
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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2Rocky

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Yep....We did damn good on the kids we created. I probably would still have ended the marriage, but sooner, like 5 years.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Don’t get me wrong, wouldn’t trade my children and the experience of helping rear them into amazing humans for anything. But inwouldve been able to do even a better job in a better marriage.
 

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My first wife, yes I would. She was my high school sweetheart. Got with her when I was 18, married her at 23, and she divorced me when I was 30. Over the years we have remained friends good to each other. We had a perfect daughter together. Right after me she got with another guy, married him, and eventually divorced him too. As friends, she has told me a few personal things over the years. First of all, she has called herself immature and said if she had to do it all again, she never would have left me. She also told me that she has only slept with me and him, nobody else. She is in her 40s, tall (maybe 5'11) and thin (maybe 145lbs) like she has always been. Redhead. She told me she hasn't slept with other men because "I have no business getting another boyfriend or husband, and I'm not the type who likes to sleep around for fun". She has a lot of empathy and was raised by two awesome parents. She really is a great person overall. So yes, I would give her another chance after the maturity and empathy she has shown since our divorce.
 
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No fvcking way. It was an absolute nightmare. She also assaulted me and nearly pushed me down the stairs. She missed, but I caught her so she wouldn't fall. Reason? She was looking for something that she misplaced and blamed it on me. The divorce lasted longer than the marriage. I then changed it to an annulment based on fraud (no child was created) just to erase the fact the marriage ever existed on paper. A different person came out once we were married. Complete shade during the 3 year dating courtship.

Should I get married again, I am taking even more precautions. Still on the fence as I do not like the family court or someone else have control of my actions and assets. The pre-nup would basically remove most rights aside from survivorship and medical. Should a lawyer or the GF not agree, no contract. Too many assets to protect.
 

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My first wife, yes I would. She was my high school sweetheart. Got with her when I was 18, married her at 23, and she divorced me when I was 30. Over the years we have remained friends good to each other. We had a perfect daughter together. Right after me she got with another guy, married him, and eventually divorced him too. As friends, she has told me a few personal things over the years. First of all, she has called herself immature and said if she had to do it all again, she never would have left me. She also told me that she has only slept with me and him, nobody else. She is in her 40s, tall (maybe 5'11) and thin (maybe 145lbs) like she has always been. Redhead. She told me she hasn't slept with other men because "I have no business getting another boyfriend or husband, and I'm not the type who likes to sleep around for fun". She has a lot of empathy and was raised by two awesome parents. She really is a great person overall. So yes, I would give her another chance after the maturity and empathy she has shown since our divorce.
Why divorced then?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Modern Man Advice

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Judgment-free poll. Question is self-explanatory.

Feel free to leave a comment below if you'd like.

Thank you for your vote.

Ciao.

~Dash
Let's just say that if I had known what I know and who I am now, we wouldn't have even gotten together in the first place.

For as much I believe she is a great person, we just wouldn't have been attracted to each other or compatible. And while we are honest, knowing what I know now the range of women I see myself committing to has become significantly narrower. Effectively, you become less "dateable" according to modern date standards.

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Did your ex wife start saying she wants you back?
Not in my case....I just realize our relationship had an expiration date. There was a point where I outgrew her. I probably would have made the same mistakes, just with someone else...

You have to realize I went into a field where my first job out of school was not where I was going to get to have a social life. I thought I needed to lock someone in to grow in that field with me. I grew, she didn't, and I eventually outgrew the field itself. That made me valuable in another related field which provides growth opportunities I never considered possible.
 

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Did your ex wife start saying she wants you back?
I've never been married but have been in many LTRs ranging from 2-9 years. If I would have brought up reconciliation, hypothetically, probably more than half would have gone for it. Others not. No regret on any of the breakups.

I honestly don't think it's in my DNA to get married. From a young age, even as a kid, it was never a goal of mine.
 

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Why divorced then?
She got post partum depression after our daughter was born, and three friends at work who convinced her to leave me because they left their husbands at the same time.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Interesting thread.

I actually would probably have married the same woman, had I had to do it over again. I chose well, but I didn't behave well.

Like Dash was saying, I also may not be cut out for marriage.

She is/was a very good woman.

I was probably most of the problem.

I led poorly. Stunk at resolving issues. Took things too seriously. I was selfish.

As it happens, my ex is getting remarried today.
 
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