"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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For every 10 guys women get asked out...how many are in person

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I had a chit chat with a friend today at work and she was telling me about how women get asked and how they prioritize their options....

With social media, OLD, hook up aps, etc, porn, etc

How manu out of every 10 guys women get asked out are in person?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I'd say probably not that many. I'm sure it happens.. but guys seem to think FB is a dating app and love to shoot their shot there. Have you actually been inside a woman's inbox? The thirst is real.
 

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I'd say probably not that many. I'm sure it happens.. but guys seem to think FB is a dating app and love to shoot their shot there. Have you actually been inside a woman's inbox? The thirst is real.
Maybe a long time ago ... like YEARS ago.
I don't have social media nor OLD/apps and ask out in person. Even though we may (in person) have the woman excited that she got asked out in person I think she still sees us as a collective group with the rest
 

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Maybe a long time ago ... like YEARS ago.
I don't have social media nor OLD/apps and ask out in person. Even though we may (in person) have the woman excited that she got asked out in person I think she still sees us as a collective group with the rest
So you're speaking on behalf of all men everywhere? Because I got a 100 girls that are saying something completely different. If you think guys don't use the internet to safely ask girls out from a distance, you are delusional.
 

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So you're speaking on behalf of all men everywhere? Because I got a 100 girls that are saying something completely different. If you think guys don't use the internet to safely ask girls out from a distance, you are delusional.
No man I'm saying I think women see all guys as the same who ask them out as a collective group of guys asking them out....let's say 3 in person , 5 online....I think she sees them as '8 options'
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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No man I'm saying I think women see all guys as the same who ask them out as a collective group of guys asking them out....let's say 3 in person , 5 online....I think she sees them as '8 options'
Yeah, I don't think it matters whether it's online or in person. The woman still gets an ego rush, and feels sexy/wanted. A lot of women openly seek validation from men, even though they have no intention of ever dating them.
 

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I imagine the number of guys she gets messages from on tinder must be insane. hundreds, if not thousands (Assuming baseline level of attractiveness).

She won't get excited about being asked out in person, unless she is physically attracted to the guy. If she's not attracted to you, she will just say she has a boyfriend, even if she doesn't have one. That's why, I don't feel like you're gaining anything by being bold enough to ask a girl out in person, unless she has known you for a while and has been able to screen you.
 

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I get asked out predominantly in person. Or by text after having met in person. But I also don’t do OLD. I don’t have time to weed out all the bozos on OLD...and I meet men through being out and about in social circles.

Aside from that I prefer to get a feel for how a man behaves in person.

That way I know already whether or not I find him attractive and whether or not I find him interesting enough to go out with.
 

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Male thirst is pretty much the sole scourge of humanity. Morbidly obese women in their 60's with 9 kids, 3 eyes and 1 leg have more abundance than Brad Pitt.
Well, somebody has to keep the species going, I guess. So much for survival of the fittest. It's more like crabs in a bucket.
 

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man its sad, my ex gf was trying to sell her ipod on letgo, and wouldnt you believe guys were actually trying on there.
''can i have your number so that when im ready i can buy it''
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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