"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
ShizamDaMan
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Yeah, sad to say I'm completely addicted to it 
diablo
Master Don Juan
It truly amazes me when people are so ignorant as to post questions to something when the answer is readily made availiable to them... in this case, the answer to the question posed was the only thing in the entire post creating this thread...
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Mr. Delicious
Senior Don Juan
I got a date off of facebook with an asian hb 7. I have a second date tomorrow. One of my friends met a pretty hot girl off there and ended up banging her a few times haha.
Mr. Delicious
Senior Don Juan
Well I found a girl that was friends with one of my friends so I just sent her a message saying something like how do you know so and so then I took it from there
PrinceAli313
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well what do you guys think would be the best thing to say to a random girl on facebook that you dont know through any friends or anything? (you can add people to your friends list and they can confirm or reject you, just in case any of you were wondering) At first I was thinking something like "hey I saw that you go to xxxx (school) and decided to friend you, if you want to talk online sometime my screename is xxxx..." but now that sounds kind of lame, lol. Any better ideas?
DrMetallica
Master Don Juan
ya its crazy you meet someone at a party and the next morning they've added you.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
diplomatic_lies
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Is the facebook only for the US?
diablo
Master Don Juan
I love it when people ask questions that they could have answered for themselves by simply clicking the link to the site in question.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
started up at harvard, then added other ivies and elites, then expanded rather quicly. yes its focused on us schools. its a pretty good online popularity contest
wev had it here for well over a year and ill you what, its lame. i know dudes who meet hot girls simply so they can be a notch on his facebook like another friend from sorority xxxxx its pathetic man. plus it makes your whole existence known to others. they can figure out who you chill with, what you type and all sorts of ****. it destroys the mystery unless you use it to project what you want at which point you could have done something useful
lol just my 2cents on the obsession after having been a member for over a yr and a half
wev had it here for well over a year and ill you what, its lame. i know dudes who meet hot girls simply so they can be a notch on his facebook like another friend from sorority xxxxx its pathetic man. plus it makes your whole existence known to others. they can figure out who you chill with, what you type and all sorts of ****. it destroys the mystery unless you use it to project what you want at which point you could have done something useful
lol just my 2cents on the obsession after having been a member for over a yr and a half
Basketba1100
Don Juan
thank you for this site, i just saw some old friends from High School and new friends from college, I been on this site for hours having fun. Good Lookin