"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
ShizamDaMan
Master Don Juan
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Yeah, sad to say I'm completely addicted to it 
diablo
Master Don Juan
It truly amazes me when people are so ignorant as to post questions to something when the answer is readily made availiable to them... in this case, the answer to the question posed was the only thing in the entire post creating this thread...
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Mr. Delicious
Senior Don Juan
I got a date off of facebook with an asian hb 7. I have a second date tomorrow. One of my friends met a pretty hot girl off there and ended up banging her a few times haha.
Mr. Delicious
Senior Don Juan
Well I found a girl that was friends with one of my friends so I just sent her a message saying something like how do you know so and so then I took it from there
PrinceAli313
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well what do you guys think would be the best thing to say to a random girl on facebook that you dont know through any friends or anything? (you can add people to your friends list and they can confirm or reject you, just in case any of you were wondering) At first I was thinking something like "hey I saw that you go to xxxx (school) and decided to friend you, if you want to talk online sometime my screename is xxxx..." but now that sounds kind of lame, lol. Any better ideas?
DrMetallica
Master Don Juan
ya its crazy you meet someone at a party and the next morning they've added you.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
diplomatic_lies
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Is the facebook only for the US?
diablo
Master Don Juan
I love it when people ask questions that they could have answered for themselves by simply clicking the link to the site in question.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
started up at harvard, then added other ivies and elites, then expanded rather quicly. yes its focused on us schools. its a pretty good online popularity contest
wev had it here for well over a year and ill you what, its lame. i know dudes who meet hot girls simply so they can be a notch on his facebook like another friend from sorority xxxxx its pathetic man. plus it makes your whole existence known to others. they can figure out who you chill with, what you type and all sorts of ****. it destroys the mystery unless you use it to project what you want at which point you could have done something useful
lol just my 2cents on the obsession after having been a member for over a yr and a half
wev had it here for well over a year and ill you what, its lame. i know dudes who meet hot girls simply so they can be a notch on his facebook like another friend from sorority xxxxx its pathetic man. plus it makes your whole existence known to others. they can figure out who you chill with, what you type and all sorts of ****. it destroys the mystery unless you use it to project what you want at which point you could have done something useful
lol just my 2cents on the obsession after having been a member for over a yr and a half
Basketba1100
Don Juan
thank you for this site, i just saw some old friends from High School and new friends from college, I been on this site for hours having fun. Good Lookin