For all those who suffered from Approach Anxiety, what was the turning point for you?

[nando]

When did you finally muster up the courage and it changed ur life for good? Please share your experiences, it would be an interesting read.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

First Time I started taking action in the game:

First came across sosauve. At college, got laid once freshman year. I then wanted to get laid again but it never happened. Second year of college, have the belief that "I" personally could never get laid, unless i joined a fraternity. Pledged twice but still didn't get laid. Liked this girl whom had some interest too, but overtime i overstayed my welcome each day when in her dorm room with friends. She lost interest. I developed a big anger that the whole year was all for nothing and i wanted to change this. Didn't want fate to determine by destiny with women.

Quiting but returning back to the game:

For me personally, it was the fact that i let too many opportunities go by and then i saw a future of myself always regretting and never let going of the past. Then hearing the quotes, "You'll never get laid" or "Till the day I see you with women" from people i knew, i ultimately wanted to prove the doubters wrong. Also when girls gave me eye contact, and yet i couldnt' do anything about it...i was afraid to take that chance. That really got to me, and since that day i've been at it and will change the future i envisioned.

Use the pain of not succeeding in the future to remove approach anxiety, that u have to prove it wrong that u can live the life you want!

 

[Snow Plowman]

I don't get AA anymore due to the fact that I rewired my whole identity and built it back up.

Before when I was just learning this I would have AA depending on if I was in state or not. I remember the 1st real hot chick I ever approached...in fast food store, I'm my typical C&F self and always teased the UG Worker. One day she gave me free food to play like I was on a date with her hot COUSIN sitting down.

I couldn't eat infront of her. (this is hilarious) All I did was drink, I got up to leave BUT...I knew my friend would be pissed that I didn't approach so I go back and sit down. Shaking I say something and go straight interview style which I'm 100% reactive lol. She says my major in school was boring and I lied and said I was changing it too another major which she said was boring.I can't express how much this cracks me up now the killer was she asked why I was shaking.

So anyway after rewiring my identity, I realized how much I loved who I was and how much value I have to offer. I then noticed women need and want me more than I'd ever need or want them. It was a huge shift which caused me to not have even a slight urge of nervousness.

Now all I do is just assert my identity to the women because I now 100% trust that Who I am will cause the girl to want my validation.

 

[j0n024]

It happened to me when I didnt graduate...yes that was a pretty big experience and let down for me and knowing that I fvcked up. When I stayed at the school the half semester I needed for that 1 damn credit I lost all feelings and thoughts about how people though of me and what they said about me, I didnt care if a girl was hot or not and I just became very relaxed and started to not give a sh1t about anything. I found this site and am now refining that attitude to help me with women so I lost my AA by not actually going up to a women but by the circumstances .

 

[Dongfu]

When I started to perform in, and eventually run open mic's. Working in sales also helped. When you can comfortably speak to audiences, one person is nothing.

 

[nando]

this is good information guys, thanks for sharing your stories, it goes to show how what you think of yourself determines how confident u can be.