Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
This, my dear students, is the textbook definition of a Damaged Goods woman. Please continue to examine her behavior and make sure to take good notes.kimberleah said:Since all men are selfish, then no man in this world deserves me long term.
You aren't really a man hater, as most here aren't really women hater. You just hate the dysfunctional nature of female-male relations that you have been brainwashed by mainstream media and sandra bulock movies to believe.But I will admit I am a man hater and thats a good reason why I am sure I will never commit- I have no hope for the vast majority of you.
If what we talk about here is exactly what you have been telling others, and they say you are crazy... ... consider your self lucky that you are way smarter than they are.Experienced it daily and everyone told me I overanalyze...then discover this forum and literally- you all write exactly what others tell me Im crazy to think
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I'm shocked that it took this long for someone to post this statement lol.vatoloco said:This, my dear students, is the textbook definition of a Damaged Goods woman. Please continue to examine her behavior and make sure to take good notes.
Also, DNFTT.
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Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Is that so?kimberleah said:As someone with an education of evolutionary biology and psychology...
I'm pretty sure that animals have "brain cells." In fact, even insects have neurons and glial cells. Believe it or not, much of what we know about human brains comes from studying animal brains!Guess what? There are these things called brain cells that humans have that animals dont. Where you think beyond your evolutionary tendencies- its very hard for some of you so I sympathize- but try it.
how do we know if this isn't gspshields2 himself ?Her boyfriend is Gspshields2. I guess his "Ferrari Game" worked.
Heh, heh.jhl said:I'm shocked that it took this long for someone to post this statement lol.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
True pretty much.disgustipated said:".how about women just sucuumb to their nature and only date men with resources? This would result in 20% of the malepopulation getting sexwith tonsof partnersand theother80% of you rarely getting it and scrambling to be rich or famous to get the power to get sex. "
Umm, this is how it is right now....as we speak.
I was kind of thinking the same thing. There's no need to respond to this woman as Life itself will take care of her attitude bringing her one day to her knees crying wondering how bad things could happen to her. We'll see how wonderful and independent she is then.Burroughs said:See what happened in NYC yesterday....when infrastructure breaks down on a permanent basis.
....womyn like the OP cvnt will be raped mercilessly until they submit to male authority or be left to drown.
as it was for centuries....
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.