You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
This, my dear students, is the textbook definition of a Damaged Goods woman. Please continue to examine her behavior and make sure to take good notes.kimberleah said:Since all men are selfish, then no man in this world deserves me long term.
You aren't really a man hater, as most here aren't really women hater. You just hate the dysfunctional nature of female-male relations that you have been brainwashed by mainstream media and sandra bulock movies to believe.But I will admit I am a man hater and thats a good reason why I am sure I will never commit- I have no hope for the vast majority of you.
If what we talk about here is exactly what you have been telling others, and they say you are crazy... ... consider your self lucky that you are way smarter than they are.Experienced it daily and everyone told me I overanalyze...then discover this forum and literally- you all write exactly what others tell me Im crazy to think
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I'm shocked that it took this long for someone to post this statement lol.vatoloco said:This, my dear students, is the textbook definition of a Damaged Goods woman. Please continue to examine her behavior and make sure to take good notes.
Also, DNFTT.
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Is that so?kimberleah said:As someone with an education of evolutionary biology and psychology...
I'm pretty sure that animals have "brain cells." In fact, even insects have neurons and glial cells. Believe it or not, much of what we know about human brains comes from studying animal brains!Guess what? There are these things called brain cells that humans have that animals dont. Where you think beyond your evolutionary tendencies- its very hard for some of you so I sympathize- but try it.
how do we know if this isn't gspshields2 himself ?Her boyfriend is Gspshields2. I guess his "Ferrari Game" worked.
Heh, heh.jhl said:I'm shocked that it took this long for someone to post this statement lol.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
True pretty much.disgustipated said:".how about women just sucuumb to their nature and only date men with resources? This would result in 20% of the malepopulation getting sexwith tonsof partnersand theother80% of you rarely getting it and scrambling to be rich or famous to get the power to get sex. "
Umm, this is how it is right now....as we speak.
I was kind of thinking the same thing. There's no need to respond to this woman as Life itself will take care of her attitude bringing her one day to her knees crying wondering how bad things could happen to her. We'll see how wonderful and independent she is then.Burroughs said:See what happened in NYC yesterday....when infrastructure breaks down on a permanent basis.
....womyn like the OP cvnt will be raped mercilessly until they submit to male authority or be left to drown.
as it was for centuries....
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.