"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Following up on a one-night stand

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Been a little while since I've posted here, but I have a dilemma I was wondering about. I've been pondering the difficulties of turning a one-night stand into a f*ckbuddy situation. The last one I had, I hooked up with this girl at a party, but it seemed like we were actually clicking before that/the next morning. She's been kinda ambivalent about communication since, which leads me to think that could be the end of it, which sucks.

But anyway... a couple nights ago, I had another one, this girl's 17 and leaving for college at the end of summer... from what I understand, she was raving about me the next morning after I left, and was, uh... EXTREMELY into the evening's festivities. I dropped her a quick email to say hi and vaguely suggested we get together again soon. She responded and agreed. Now what's the next move? It would seem kinda awkward I would think to just invite her over to my place considering the circumstances of the last time we met... but then again, I don't know... it's all so confusing.

Basically, what I'm asking is... what's the best course of action to be able to keep banging a girl that you bagged for one night?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Porky

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Invite her over for dinner and a movie.

Do you want a fvck buddy for do you want to date her? If you want a fvck buddy, make sure she understands that. If you're as good as hook up as you say, she'll come over.
 

biker_gixxer

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Basically, what I'm asking is... what's the best course of action to be able to keep banging a girl that you bagged for one night?

Don't get clingly or act like she's the center of your universe. Keep playing it cool, lean back and relax. Wait a few days before calling her and ask her what time she's stopping over to watch the movie you're going to rent...
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Iceberg

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Originally posted by Jus_LikeCandy
Why don't you want to date her?

Maybe because he banged her after 15 minutes of conversation and he wouldn't want to be seen around town with this tramp as his official girlfriend. He's thinking the right way.
 
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These are some great replies guys, I truly appreciate the input. Iceberg's right... not only is this girl leaving for college at the end of the summer, but she's just not girlfriend material.

So it seems like the whole "come over for a movie" idea is the one to go with. I like this... props to biker_gixxer for the "what time are you coming over" line :D

Again, thanks for the replies guys!
 

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Thanks for the compliment bro. It's all about confidence and being in control of the situation (primarly with her). Assuming that she's going to come over instead of 'asking' says allot on many different levels...
 
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