"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Following up on a one-night stand

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Been a little while since I've posted here, but I have a dilemma I was wondering about. I've been pondering the difficulties of turning a one-night stand into a f*ckbuddy situation. The last one I had, I hooked up with this girl at a party, but it seemed like we were actually clicking before that/the next morning. She's been kinda ambivalent about communication since, which leads me to think that could be the end of it, which sucks.

But anyway... a couple nights ago, I had another one, this girl's 17 and leaving for college at the end of summer... from what I understand, she was raving about me the next morning after I left, and was, uh... EXTREMELY into the evening's festivities. I dropped her a quick email to say hi and vaguely suggested we get together again soon. She responded and agreed. Now what's the next move? It would seem kinda awkward I would think to just invite her over to my place considering the circumstances of the last time we met... but then again, I don't know... it's all so confusing.

Basically, what I'm asking is... what's the best course of action to be able to keep banging a girl that you bagged for one night?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Porky

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Invite her over for dinner and a movie.

Do you want a fvck buddy for do you want to date her? If you want a fvck buddy, make sure she understands that. If you're as good as hook up as you say, she'll come over.
 

biker_gixxer

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Basically, what I'm asking is... what's the best course of action to be able to keep banging a girl that you bagged for one night?

Don't get clingly or act like she's the center of your universe. Keep playing it cool, lean back and relax. Wait a few days before calling her and ask her what time she's stopping over to watch the movie you're going to rent...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by Jus_LikeCandy
Why don't you want to date her?

Maybe because he banged her after 15 minutes of conversation and he wouldn't want to be seen around town with this tramp as his official girlfriend. He's thinking the right way.
 
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These are some great replies guys, I truly appreciate the input. Iceberg's right... not only is this girl leaving for college at the end of the summer, but she's just not girlfriend material.

So it seems like the whole "come over for a movie" idea is the one to go with. I like this... props to biker_gixxer for the "what time are you coming over" line :D

Again, thanks for the replies guys!
 

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Thanks for the compliment bro. It's all about confidence and being in control of the situation (primarly with her). Assuming that she's going to come over instead of 'asking' says allot on many different levels...
 
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