"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Following through with numbers.

Jack Wealthy

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I've only recently figured this out, so I'll post up a topic about it while it's fresh in mind.

You've gotten a decent level of success, you can consistently get numbers and makeouts as well as the occasional lay. However, you can rarely get a girl to follow through and those that do often flake. It's frustrating. I know. I've been there.

First of all the best way to solidify a number is to plan the date when you meet them when you get there number. Just give a time and place you're free, ask them to come and then get their number.

Another basic: Should you text or call? I'd say text. If I call a girl she often won't answer, or will ask why I am calling. Calls can be awkward and many girls in this generation are hesitant to accept them from people they don't know all that well, which you usually will be.

The specifics of texting are pretty simple:
1) Start text conversations with a statement. A girl will reply to any statement that doesn't degrade, insult or offend her if she likes you. If she doesn't like you, she may reply to a question but she won't meet up. A girl who does like you who you message a question is also less likely to meet up. It's a lose-lose.
1i) I want to clarify, I mean general questions. If you text her soemthing like "how are you" "what's up" "what did you do today" then you are ****. Full stop.
2) The best first texts are something funny from your interaction. A nickname you gave her is an easy one. Any shared experience works.
3) Failing that, a generic funny comment will work well. Anything unique or at least unique sounding is best.
4) Somewhere in that first text put your name, don't expect her to remember it.
5) If she doesn't reply, all g. First texts are just to give her your number, wait a week and text her again to try and set a meeting. If you get ignored again, big deal, fish in the sea.
6) If she does reply, you don't have to. Again, don't feel anxious to reply or like you have to wait at least as long as she did before you do. You should wait that long, hut you should relax and do it. Read her reply, then do other stuff until you feel like writing one. Don't be afraid to reply hours or even days late. The exception is if you're trying to meet up at the time.
7) Get to the meet up quick. Don't chit chat. Never ask generic rapport questions, they are time wasters and ***** dryers.

The general attitude you want while texting is "This girl loves me." Anything she says is her reinforcing that belief. No. Matter. What. If she replies, she wants you. You're not trying to get her attracted because she already loves you. Instead, you want to set a meet up fast so she can prove her love to you by making love to you.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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This is very relevant to a question I posted in BPH's thread.

I just got a girls number today. "Date" already established, we're going to bars this weekend, probably with a few of my friends (I'll probably bring a guy to wing me and 2 friend-zoned girls). I had class so I didn't text her my name right away.

Should I text her today or wait til I'm ready to tell her where we're going this weekend?
 

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Texted her saying we'd be going out Saturday and where. No response. I'll call her tomorrow.
 

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Got an answer. She's going back home this weekend so no meet up. She said "next time my friend!" to end the text. May be her attempt to signal only friendly interest but ill attempt kino when I see her and find out for sure.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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LearningSlowly said:
Got an answer. She's going back home this weekend so no meet up. She said "next time my friend!" to end the text. May be her attempt to signal only friendly interest but ill attempt kino when I see her and find out for sure.
She wants the D
 

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Jack Wealthy said:
She always wants your ****. You lack that fundamental mindset.
This was, i believe, your 666th post............:nervous:
 

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Wish I had realized this earlier. Used to be such a fan of text game. Would text for hours and hours and day after day before setting something up. Waste of time, you can't **** your phone.

Also, if she's hot, realize how many guys text her on a regular basis. Don't be more entertainment.
 
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