Followed so-suave advice; worked well. Now what?

[ohiobohio518]

Deleted. I fear the power of the Internet

Thanks for the advice guys

 

[Iceberg]

I'm 23... she's I dunno, 24 or 25. I know her through work (she doesnt work at the same place). Recently single.

First date:

Invited her out to ice cream the way you're supposed to, just a few hours before going: "I'm gonna get ice cream after I eat dinner. Wanna join?" Asking as if I was gonna go there anyway, and doing it pretty spontaneously.

Sounds good. Just out of curiosity, are you against drinking?

I bring her back to her apt, but she isn't in a rush to leave. She doesn't even reach for the door and we kind of keep talking. I'm not sure what she's expecting here, but I wasn't gonna kiss her (I've heard from sources she hates 'players')

Why would kissing a woman make you a player?

Also, of course you'll hear that women hate "players," but if you look at their sexual history, these are the guys who get into their pants. So obviously, they don't hate them too much, right?

I get out of work at 10pm Wed-Fri so I can't do any of those nights. Calling tomorrow and asking for Tuesday would seem a little desperate yeah?

So should I call tomorrow and ask for a Sat night dinner and then go check out the ride?

You're 23, so I don't see why you can't arrange some type of date after 10pm.

But yeah, try to get her out on Saturday. Again, I personally would rather do something a little more adult-themed, as dinner and amusement parks sounds too "Chick Flick" for me. But hey if it's working for you, then roll with it.

 

[ohiobohio518]

Sounds good. Just out of curiosity, are you against drinking?

No, I actually reconnected with her (and found out shes recently single) while on a night out with coworkers.

Why would kissing a woman make you a player?

I dunno. Maybe that was dumb. But I have one more chance before I blow it forever.

You're 23, so I don't see why you can't arrange some type of date after 10pm.

True, but since she has work at 9 in the morning it gets pretty restrictive as to how long you can stay out, or what you can do. Also, I forgot to mention, I live in a pretty small city where there really isn't much to do after 10 pm except go drink at a trashy bar. I don't actually live in Cleveland like my profile says.

But yeah, try to get her out on Saturday. Again, I personally would rather do something a little more adult-themed, as dinner and amusement parks sounds too "Chick Flick" for me. But hey if it's working for you, then roll with it.

You're right. The amusement park ride thing is just one thing that would take like 5 minutes. Maybe 15 minutes with the wait. We could just get that out of the way and then go get dinner, where drinking can be involved. Since it's Sat night, we can then go out, or watch a movie or something at my place.

Thanks for the advice... now just one last thing... call today or tomorrow? Smeh, really not that big a deal, but I'm just wondering

 

[justanothernormalguy]

you should of kissed her, or at least raised her sexual interest level through kino. You are very much heading for friend zone.

 

[ohiobohio518]

you should of kissed her, or at least raised her sexual interest level through kino. You are very much heading for friend zone.

I know, but it also didn't seem right, you know? I'm not trying to be a p*ssy about this and make excuses, really. It would've been awkward if I tried kissing her there. (This, on top of the player thing)

 

[ohiobohio518]

At this point I just want to know if I should call her today or tomorrow...

 

[Jariel]

Also, of course you'll hear that women hate "players," but if you look at their sexual history, these are the guys who get into their pants. So obviously, they don't hate them too much, right?

Exactly! All women say that, but very few act on it. Plus, it doesn't mean they don't want sex or physical contact.

You really should've kissed her and I'm guessing she was expecting and hoping for it.

It doesn't mean it's a lost cause, but tread very carefully with the gentleman card. It can be endearing at first, but the novelty wears off pretty quickly and if you don't show her some kind of sexuality, you could end up in the friendzone or judged as a "nice guy".

It has happened to me way too many times. Check out this post I wrote based on these exact experiences...

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=180108

 

[ohiobohio518]

OK. I got it. I think I'm going to ask her for a follow-up date sooner. I feel like I will be etched in the friend zone if I wait until Sat. I'm gonna call her tonight and try Tuesday. I mean, Tuesday, who has plans for Tuesday? K, done. Thanks for the advice guys.

 

[justanothernormalguy]

You can always find a moment for a kiss, the more you wait around looking for the perfect moment the less likely you are to find it!