"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Follow ups/Feedback/What could I have done wrong

Comatozed

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The situation:

Went out with girl from tinder, few drinks, I thought we got on pretty well (obviously not), back to mine. I had no condoms so she blew me, I went down on her. She then left because she lived with her parents and couldn't stay the night...

She's hot and I want to bang her..so I messaged her Monday saying 'So did your mum ground you then?' - a reference to her telling me about the cover up she had planned to tell her mum when she got home.

No reply. I find myself AFC'd again. The date seemed to go well, i negged her a fair bit and she responded playfully and she came to mine and blew me so it can't have been THAT bad.

Anyway, is it worth texting again on Friday something like 'I hope not cos tonight I want you to come out with me' - I see it as though I don't really have anything to lose by doing so.

OR

How do you like texting like 'fine it was a one off thing, any particular reason as i'm interested in getting better with girls' again, looks insecure but nothing really to lose...we have no mutual friends and if she's not gonna bang me then w/e.

I'm just confused. All I can think is the date wasn't as great as I thought but she was horny and used me for sex.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Harry Wilmington

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One date in and you're already showing her signs that you've chosen her - no bueno. You get the date, go out with her, then once the date's over, wait 4 days to contact her before hitting her up to ask her on a date again. No extra convos are needed, no random texting messages asking her about stuff that doesn't involve you getting the next date. And yes, just because she blew you doesn't mean she's made a decision about you being the only guy she sees - the more patient you are, the better results you'll have.

And for the love of God, don't send her an AFC message saying "okay, I get it, I know you don't like me" or anything like that. Girls are showing these messages to other girls, some of which you may run into later and would have had a chance with had it not been for them seeing the messages of desperation you were sending. Hit her up in a few days (preferably with a phone call) and ask her out again - if she responds, great, and if not, move on.
 

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I think I may wrongly assume that once a girl blows me she has made a commitment to at least seeing me a few more times.

Good post. I wasn't trying to get into a chatty text conversation, I planned to just use that to say hi and then ask her out the next message.

I will contact her with a date proposal on friday and then leave it at that.
 
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