Follow up/Next Steps to cutting contact?

[RogueWarrior]

Okay so let's say this girl you've known for a while who has shown interest in the past has started taking you for granted so you cut contact. Two or three weeks later she calls for some b.s. reason e.g. to pick your brain about something which translates to "what happened to you and why aren't you chasing me anymore".

What are the next moves here? What you don't know is why she started flaking on you in the first place. Maybe she started seeing someone else. Maybe she started a new job or got slammed with a big project or something. Point is that the reason you cut contact was because she was being a jerk to you.

Ultimately, you need to convey somehow that you're not her doormat or a convenience-store friend because you have a spine and you don't tolerate this sort of behavior.

Would you not answer the phone and call back? How long would you wait?
It's pretty hard to pretend that you didn't know she made contact with you these days what with Caller ID, Call-waiting ID, voicemail, e-mail, text-messaging.

Thoughts?

 

[Jeremymichael]

I would like an answer on this too, anyone?

 

[Monkey]

Okay so let's say this girl you've known for a while who has shown interest in the past has started taking you for granted so you cut contact.

Maybe she got tired of waiting for you to ask her out?

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Why so much concern with a woman who does this? If you are going to move on, MOVE ON!

 

[blackbelt2k]

i agree with franco ... I'm no where close to being a dj YET, but i have learned that the first step is to stop being so sensitive to women. There was a post a while back on pinging, which is basicly after you cut contact weight like a week or 2, then send a message like this:

Hey name, whats going on with you these days? I just got back from surfing. Holy crap, there were some awesome waves. But you know how it is, the beach is always fun. Have you checked out the shore lately?

1st. open with a general question: Hey name, whats going on with you these days?

2nd. show her you got a life: just got back from surfing. Holy crap, there were some awesome waves.

3rd relate it: But you know how it is, the beach is always fun.

4th end with a question: Have you checked out the shore lately?