"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Okay so let's say this girl you've known for a while who has shown interest in the past has started taking you for granted so you cut contact. Two or three weeks later she calls for some b.s. reason e.g. to pick your brain about something which translates to "what happened to you and why aren't you chasing me anymore".

What are the next moves here? What you don't know is why she started flaking on you in the first place. Maybe she started seeing someone else. Maybe she started a new job or got slammed with a big project or something. Point is that the reason you cut contact was because she was being a jerk to you.

Ultimately, you need to convey somehow that you're not her doormat or a convenience-store friend because you have a spine and you don't tolerate this sort of behavior.

Would you not answer the phone and call back? How long would you wait?
It's pretty hard to pretend that you didn't know she made contact with you these days what with Caller ID, Call-waiting ID, voicemail, e-mail, text-messaging.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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RogueWarrior said:
Okay so let's say this girl you've known for a while who has shown interest in the past has started taking you for granted so you cut contact.
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Maybe she got tired of waiting for you to ask her out?
 
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Francisco d'Anconia

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Why so much concern with a woman who does this? If you are going to move on, MOVE ON!
 
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i agree with franco ... I'm no where close to being a dj YET, but i have learned that the first step is to stop being so sensitive to women. There was a post a while back on pinging, which is basicly after you cut contact weight like a week or 2, then send a message like this:

Hey name, whats going on with you these days? I just got back from surfing. Holy crap, there were some awesome waves. But you know how it is, the beach is always fun. Have you checked out the shore lately?

1st. open with a general question: Hey name, whats going on with you these days?

2nd. show her you got a life: just got back from surfing. Holy crap, there were some awesome waves.

3rd relate it: But you know how it is, the beach is always fun.

4th end with a question: Have you checked out the shore lately?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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