"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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darksprezzatura

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"Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking."
-Marcus Aurelius


Everytime I log in to sosuave, I observe that most of the posts made by users revolve around some particular girl and their attempts at 'winning' her/'analysing' her.

This is accompanied with various attempts by other users who turn to 'guiding' them.

A user who has thoughts of a particular woman, posts about her here, when she's not even there with him has already lost frame and is in HER frame.

This will unconsciously show in his behaviour whatever "GAME" he pulls off.

In my opinion, I would be rather overjoyed if I see posts about people putting forth efforts in improving themselves and their lives, declaring their purpose, passion and their growth.


This is the ONLY way to be successful with women.

I would be glad if someone links guides and articles which revolve around actions in our own control apart from the generalised Red Pill philosophy.

Off to reread the DJ Bible.
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Your right. Worrying about and overanalyzing someone whose not making it easy for us is submitting to her. It's weak and not attractive.
 
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For quite a while, I had complete oneitis over this Instagram chick in vegas. I was really to do anything (including drop a ton of cash) to be with her. She turned out to be a flakey dumb ho.

Now I’m much more interested in my career than women. Yes, I post about women but honestly it’s like 1% I’d my energy. I have had such an amazing year for my career, winning awards left and right and getting new opportunities, and I just want to build on it. I’m becoming unstoppable. Everyone around me respects me.

Guys in their 20’s will look back and realize how stupid they acted but that’s a part of life. Looking back, I’m glad did dumb stuff. Now I realize all the mistakes I made and I’m a much better person.
 

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For quite a while, I had complete oneitis over this Instagram chick in vegas. I was really to do anything (including drop a ton of cash) to be with her. She turned out to be a flakey dumb ho.

Now I’m much more interested in my career than women. Yes, I post about women but honestly it’s like 1% I’d my energy. I have had such an amazing year for my career, winning awards left and right and getting new opportunities, and I just want to build on it. I’m becoming unstoppable. Everyone around me respects me.

Guys in their 20’s will look back and realize how stupid they acted but that’s a part of life. Looking back, I’m glad did dumb stuff. Now I realize all the mistakes I made and I’m a much better person.
Hindsight is 20/20
 

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Wow. It's amazing what a black hole they are for motivation and energy .
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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