"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Focus and composure

Dirtheart

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It has been expressed many times before on this forum, but there are profound benefits to SLOWING DOWN!

Not only does is it appear more elegant, but as you slow down your actions, you will learn to focus more intently on things and conduct yourself more precisely. You will have more control over everything you do!

Try reading a piece of text aloud. Notice how the faster you read the more you stutter, make mistakes and miss the point. Notice that by slowing down you can pronounce each word correctly, more elegantly, add expression and tone, and absorb everything the text has to offer. It's the same with everything you do in life!

For practice, try slowing down everything you do during the next ten minutes or so and notice the benefits of doing so. Notice how easier it is to focus on what you are doing and how much richer the experiences are.

It's a fairly obvious fact, but so few people actually apply it. Most of us live in a society where time dictates our lives - we must meet deadlines, must reach work by a certain time, rush to catch a train/bus, reach the bank before the queues etc and in doing so, we fail to experience life, make mistakes, create unecessary stress and let life pass us by.

By slowing down, we can improve our composure and focus, rid ourselves of the pressures and mistakes that impair confidence, gain control of our actions and our lives, appear more elegant and attractive, be happier and more enjoyable company and so on.

As a further example, I'd recommend watching a David Lynch movie (Lost Highway is the best example) and see how everything transpires at a very slow tempo, and how rich and deeply absorbing his movies are as a result.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Another thing I'd like to point out is the importance of relaxed breathing and speaking. Many people breathe from their chest, and take very shallow breaths. This results in a higher tone of speech and a feeling (and appearance) of tension and unease.

Comfortable breathing comes from the diaphram and is slow and deep. Observe any meditation techniques, yoga, pilates, tai chi etc and most martial arts and it's the first thing you will learn. Search the WWW for more info.

Also, when speaking from the diaphram, your voice tone will be deeper (more attractive/alpha male) and resonates your body putting it into a state of relaxation (similar to a Buddhist chant).

Moreover, the extra oxygen intake from this kind of breathing also increases your focus, helps the blood circulate and gives your face a radiant glow.
 
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