"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Focus and composure

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It has been expressed many times before on this forum, but there are profound benefits to SLOWING DOWN!

Not only does is it appear more elegant, but as you slow down your actions, you will learn to focus more intently on things and conduct yourself more precisely. You will have more control over everything you do!

Try reading a piece of text aloud. Notice how the faster you read the more you stutter, make mistakes and miss the point. Notice that by slowing down you can pronounce each word correctly, more elegantly, add expression and tone, and absorb everything the text has to offer. It's the same with everything you do in life!

For practice, try slowing down everything you do during the next ten minutes or so and notice the benefits of doing so. Notice how easier it is to focus on what you are doing and how much richer the experiences are.

It's a fairly obvious fact, but so few people actually apply it. Most of us live in a society where time dictates our lives - we must meet deadlines, must reach work by a certain time, rush to catch a train/bus, reach the bank before the queues etc and in doing so, we fail to experience life, make mistakes, create unecessary stress and let life pass us by.

By slowing down, we can improve our composure and focus, rid ourselves of the pressures and mistakes that impair confidence, gain control of our actions and our lives, appear more elegant and attractive, be happier and more enjoyable company and so on.

As a further example, I'd recommend watching a David Lynch movie (Lost Highway is the best example) and see how everything transpires at a very slow tempo, and how rich and deeply absorbing his movies are as a result.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Another thing I'd like to point out is the importance of relaxed breathing and speaking. Many people breathe from their chest, and take very shallow breaths. This results in a higher tone of speech and a feeling (and appearance) of tension and unease.

Comfortable breathing comes from the diaphram and is slow and deep. Observe any meditation techniques, yoga, pilates, tai chi etc and most martial arts and it's the first thing you will learn. Search the WWW for more info.

Also, when speaking from the diaphram, your voice tone will be deeper (more attractive/alpha male) and resonates your body putting it into a state of relaxation (similar to a Buddhist chant).

Moreover, the extra oxygen intake from this kind of breathing also increases your focus, helps the blood circulate and gives your face a radiant glow.
 
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