Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
seethehoop said:Don't feed the troll, send him back under his bridge.
BC its clearly a troll post. I have no problem with helping someone with a genuine issue but given that NY is on the east coast and LA on the west there's no way anyone is going to suggest flying that kind of distance for a girl. The OP is clearly a child as no adult would talk like this or ask such an idiotic question. I also think you are here to troll BC I've seen some of your posts and they reek of the same immaturity.gspshields2 said:why is everyone who asks a question a troll?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Most of the time, even a sure lay isn't in stone. And that thing about flying? That's a fairy tale.:crackup:Zarky said:I'll assume the OP is a troll but it definitely brings up the rule, never drive more than an hour or so to meet a chick, and that's only for a SURE LAY. And never ever fly unless she's a billionaire and is waiting in Vegas to marry you without a prenup right now.