Quite awhile ago while I was surfing this board, I found a thread that contained a link to a very extensive and thorough article on flirting. I think the site might have been some college psychology thing or something, but I can't remember for sure... And I can't find the thread with the link. I know it's a long shot, but does anyone know of this article, and if so, can you post a link?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Flirting
- Thread starter Zoso
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
stormwriter
Senior Don Juan
I just did a search on Yahoo, and it came up with this site. Actually a pretty good site, with what appears to be some good information:
http://acmelove.com/flirting/natural-flirts.php
http://acmelove.com/flirting/natural-flirts.php
I found it... If anyone is interested, it's http://www.sirc.org/publik/flirt.html
Microphone Fiend
Master Don Juan
just skimmed through the link, a pretty good link too...Originally posted by Zoso
I found it... If anyone is interested, it's http://www.sirc.org/publik/flirt.html
I'd advise yall to read up on it.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Just read through this article. So basically it's true that women control men most of the time, and there's no way of telling whether or not they are interested in you. Until they finally blow you off, of course. It's kind of disturbing to think that men are always the ones who are made into fools, while women can just sit back in delight and enjoy the power they have over us.Originally posted by stormwriter
I just did a search on Yahoo, and it came up with this site. Actually a pretty good site, with what appears to be some good information:
http://acmelove.com/flirting/natural-flirts.php
I must say, it's also tough from the article to distinguish whether the women responded negatively only when the men talked too much, or when after ten minutes, they decided that they didn't find them attractive. I wish the author would have made these points clearer. Oh well...