"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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MackJr

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This is something I thought I'd never see. I was at a political party meeting and there were a lot of lesbians there, ie, more than you'd see on the street each day. The older ones had the 'butch' look, but the younger ones could probably pass for straight.

Anyway, I wasn't there for meeting women, I was actually trying to see what was going on politically. Some of the lesbians came up to me since I wasn't a regular and one was basically asking me the get-acquainted questions. I saw a ring on her finger, but her behavior didn't match so I teased her about it, because she talked about having a crush on the politician at the meeting. I teased her on this, basically going into a C&F pattern and mentioned her ring, to get the story on it. She told me she was lesbian (as I thought), and I said, "oh, you're just wearing a ring to keep guys from hitting on you, "

She was flattered, but said she was too old and that men didn't hit on her anymore (she was 41, but looked 33). Somehow we got some incredible rapport going, even though there wasn't going to be any laying. Then she started aggressively trying to hook me up with her straight friend who was also there.

Said friend looked okay, HB7 with an 8.5 body. I passed on the opportunity because I'm not really in a position to do a lot of dating for various reasons.

The funny thing here was that 1.) I found myself flirting with a creature I would have considered unflirtable, and 2) I could have had the social proof for the straight girl in the form of her lezzie friend if I'd pursued her. It makes me wonder what's going on in a woman's mind when you're in a pass, given that the lesbian woman exhibited many of the signs a normal one would have. It could have been that she was bi, but since her "committed partner" was right there, she wasn't going to just run off with some man.

What have DJs found about (real not porn) lesbans? I'm thinking that they might not be useless, but I don't have consistent strategy for dealing with them yet.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Bungo Pony

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Even if a woman is a Lesbian, her brain is still wired like a woman. I'm guessing the techniques that work on straight women will work on lesbians, although I've never tried. I'm also guessing that gay men are still turned on firstly by looks as are straight men.
 

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Originally posted by Bungo Pony
I'm also guessing that gay men are still turned on firstly by looks as are straight men.
A few years ago I was out shopping with a VERY gay male friend of mine. A very lovely girl bumped into him, apologized and walked away. He looked at her for a moment, then turned to me. "You know...I wouldn't mind fvcking her."

Just because a woman says she prefers her lovers "hung like a doughnut" doesn't mean she hates the taste of sausage. ;)
 

MindOverMatter

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haha this reminds me of chasing amy

"she just needs some deep dickin' "

In all seriousness tho, scientists have yet to prove that people are born gay. There are many cases of identical twins, where one twin is gay and the other is straight. It's just a lifestyle that people chose, so it doesn't surprise me that their natural urges (d!ck, meet vagina) take over them sometimes. How else do you explain bisexuals, etc?

edit - i almost forgot. all the lesbians I know in real life (not that many btw) are bisexual.
 

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My best friend in the world , and my current #1 playmate is a lesbian (with one exception :D ) . I have never met a lesbian that has not had sex with a man , or isn't curious.

Good play bro.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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