Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Flirting tips

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Flirting tips

Guys,

A simple, but decent summary I found on the web. If you like to follow a point for point format, this will help. I wonder if it's too basic though, but what I like about it is that it doesn't get too analytical about how and who you should be and what you should be thinking, just makes you think: "Just do it. Is it that straightforward? I can do that".
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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"6. Ooze with interest
Act as if he or she were the most important person in your world and nothing else matters at the moment. Ooze with the allure of your undivided attention, fascination, and interest in just them. "There is nothing sexier or more complimentary than someone who flirts entranced with me and thinks I hung the moon." "

I cant say that I agree with that part. Acting like you "think the girl hung the moon" is probably not the best approach unless your goal is to either A) freak her out or B) let her know she can walk all over you.

Just my $0.02
 

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Being interested in things about her is good.

Just find the balance.


Anyway, I think they're just talking about flirting there.
FLIRTING=AFC anyway
 

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It's true -- I flirted with a girl for months in my AFC days. It was just something that she did just for ****s and giggles. Like "just in case you wanted to leave me a love note" -- the context was that she was changing emails etc.

And I never did send her anything construable as a love note either, so even to this day I had no idea what she was babbling about.

Ah, to be AFC again
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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So Many Ways

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Originally posted by Diaoz

FLIRTING=AFC anyway
Are you kidding? Flirting is a basic skill that's necessary for pulling chicks.

I agree with the article except for point 6, which seems to advocate putting the woman on a pedestal.
 

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Originally posted by So Many Ways
Are you kidding? Flirting is a basic skill that's necessary for pulling chicks.
I agree. Without flirting, you're going to find it very difficult showing or even raising interest.

As for the tips. I agree with all except point 6 too.
 
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