"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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flirt or a subtle move?

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Since a few months i have a new colleague and she is a pretty good looking girl to me with Oriental roots. We work seperated in the same building but it happens we chat up during a break or so.
It became clear during a chat we both like cooking and a few days later she gives me recipes (while i didn't asked for them). Last week she asked me if i already tried one of her recipes and then she said 'i expect an invitation from you to come over for diner'. I responded by sure, i will invite you soon but let me practice a bit first.' What do you think, just a flirt or a smart/subtle move from her? Is this a way from her to show interest?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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She's interested in you.

A girl doesn't ask for an invitation to your pad for "dinner" if she isn't interested in you.
 

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As far as i know she is semi oriental. She is a not traditional looking oriental girl and she is rather tall (taller then me but i am relative short) and is playing basketball on a high level.
Some extra info, she is having a boyfriend and i have a girlfriend. Does it make the situation different you think?
 
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LittleBigOne said:
Some extra info, she is having a boyfriend and i have a girlfriend. Does it make the situation different you think?
As someone who believes in being faithful to your partner, I would steer clear, but many a man would do the total opposite, so it's down to you.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If she's a major upgrade invite her over. If it gets close to sex, tell her you have a girl and dramatically pull away kinda like drama squirrel. Leave your girl and go to girlfriend release 2.0. Enjoy your good cooking, gratz man
 

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LittleBigOne said:
Since a few months i have a new colleague and she is a pretty good looking girl to me with Oriental roots. We work seperated in the same building but it happens we chat up during a break or so.
It became clear during a chat we both like cooking and a few days later she gives me recipes (while i didn't asked for them). Last week she asked me if i already tried one of her recipes and then she said 'i expect an invitation from you to come over for diner'. I responded by sure, i will invite you soon but let me practice a bit first.' What do you think, just a flirt or a smart/subtle move from her? Is this a way from her to show interest?
Next time she brings up that dinner invitation tell her to come over and show you how the recipe is done, get her to make her dinner and make moves on her.

At the very least....you have dinner made for you :D

As for your situation you have to play it by ear...she has a boyfriend which could mean she's just friendly. However if she comes over to your place alone and you guys talk about sex and other things the I think it's game on.
 

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does she know you have a girlfriend? i think thats relatively important.

if she knows your in a relationship, i think she might just want more guy friends who her boyfriend wont object to her hanging out with.
 

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Thanks for the responses,

We know from eachother that we are in a relationship. My conclusion after your help: She might be (slightly) attracted to me but, just like me, she is not gonna give up her boyfriend. But she is a girl to keep in mind and might be an option in the future. In the meanwhile i will continue making fun with her, busting her balls and blame her for everything that goes wrong and take a good look in how she responds to me.

Let´s make this thread title different:

Give one example of how a girl made clear she is or was attracted to you.
 
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This really hot girl said to me "Are you going to Y's party on Friday night" and I said "Maybe, I am not sure, I might be going to a club with a few friends" and she said "Well I'm only going to Y's party, if you're going". Low and behold, I got with her at the party.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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perseverance said:
This really hot girl said to me "Are you going to Y's party on Friday night" and I said "Maybe, I am not sure, I might be going to a club with a few friends" and she said "Well I'm only going to Y's party, if you're going". Low and behold, I got with her at the party.
Cool! Well, that´s a great example. Please write this one down in my new thread please. And thanks for your response!
 
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