"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Flat out telling a girl you want to hook up?

Elf2

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I'm thinking of telling this younger girl -flat out- that I want to hook up with her and see what she says. I don't go to school with her anymore and worse comes to worse she gets creeped out, thinks I'm a loser and tells all her friends. I could careless about not talking to her anymore so I'm fine with walking away if it doesn't workout.

Anybody done something similar?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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JLW

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instead of telling her, why dont you just do it..?
 

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Never understood why anyone asks out girls...its so chode...

Think of it this way...

A guy who has options wouldn't be asking a chick out? Why? because he has an abundance of women, he isn't too worried about getting this one girl. Meanwhile the other guy he is asking a chick out and he doesn't even know the chick. I guess he mustn't have any other options because he is so quick to go right into a relationship.

Point I'm trying to put across you look like a AFC who jumped out the shadows saying "I have a crush on you". It may work here and there but the overall frame that your in is a rather boring dating frame of bf/gf there isn't no sexual tension or any of that good excitement. Sex isn't her way of getting validation or your acceptance anymore, now its basically you working to get sex while she logically screens you.

Overall if you actually want a chick, then game her the right way, don't be an AFC.
 

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Elf2 said:
I'm thinking of telling this younger girl -flat out- that I want to hook up with her and see what she says. I don't go to school with her anymore and worse comes to worse she gets creeped out, thinks I'm a loser and tells all her friends. I could careless about not talking to her anymore so I'm fine with walking away if it doesn't workout.

Anybody done something similar?
It sounds like you're overthinking the situation. Just ask her and dont worry what her friends think or about rejection period. Just don't give a fvck and just do it.
 

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You got the right idea bro but you can show a little tact too. Be subtle it's unbecoming to tell someone other than a girlfriend you want to jump her bones. Then again anything with t*ts and a tw*t is liable to do some crazy things so it really doesn't even matter. Do it up Romeo
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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its like jumping out of a moving car; in the movies it looks cool, but in real life it'll hurt your butt
 

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Elf2 said:
I'm thinking of telling this younger girl -flat out- that I want to hook up with her and see what she says. I don't go to school with her anymore and worse comes to worse she gets creeped out, thinks I'm a loser and tells all her friends. I could careless about not talking to her anymore so I'm fine with walking away if it doesn't workout.

Anybody done something similar?
This style of asking women out died when Saved By The Bell was cancelled! This move didn't work for me anytime past 1999! It worked wonders for me in 1991 and I was only 5! No I didn't bang, yet we did 16 years later after I discovered the attraction was still there!!!

You should walk off, and go for an older chick.

If you want, build attraction and rapport then flirt and TELL her to hook up! DO NOT ASK!!!

As for her friends, grow some balls and show that you're no wuss!

See that asking a younger girl out sh*t? DON'T DO IT.
 
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