"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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i do hope i spelt flare right, or is this the kind of flare you fire to seek help?

well anyway, i was sitting down in a physics lesson, suddenlt i got my nice silver coloured parker pen and but it in the top pocket in my jacket (suit jacket)

well i think you know what i mean. The pocket at the front not far form the coloer, rather then the side pocket. so that the pen is sticking out and the piece that clips on to the pocket, clips on to the pocket.

who else have i seen with there pen like this? no one! its diffrent and its classy, its like jewlery but i will not wear chains i odnt liek the image i would get, but this is good, and it makes the single colour black jacket less plain.

The important part is that no one else does it. It stands out people notice it sometimes and its a good thing.

This is only a small example but it reminded me of a camp i was at for a week with the RAF cadets. this was over a year ago, before i was at the site and i hardly talked to any of the girls at all, infact im not sure that i did. One day we where all walking back at night, 1 of us had to wear a floresent jacket because it was dark and we where on a road. I was asked to so i put it on and with in a few minutes 2 girls, 1 of which was the fittest there walk up to me and put there arms around me and say "we havent really tlaked to you at all this week so we thought we would get to know you a bit better.

I lacked confidence then, so do you seriously think they would want to approch me rather then some one else, well no they would not, but i stood out because of the florecent jacket, now the pen on your jacket will not do this for you but this is proof flare does help.

so you should try and do somthing diffrent, that turns heads, and this is why it works. imagine there where 9 guys and you in a room, and 20 girls liked all of you equally at first sight, well you may each get approched twice.

now imagine the same situation but you look diffrent, imagine if the flare makes you look less good, so only 5 of the 20 like you instead of all of them and the other 15 like the other 9 girls, well less girls like you, but theres only 1 like you to go round. It also works because you stand out. you are under the spotlight.

go and find somthing that makes you stand out, like an unusual haircut or birght coloured clothing.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Pretty sure it's flair.

Anyhow, how about just going up to a girl and saying "hi, I'm Check_mate_kid_uk, blah blah blah" instead of wafting you Pen about for attention?
 

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Imagine the same 15 guys 1 being ripped all others not ripped except one who have a pen. Who do you think the beautiful girls will approach?

Or you could put on a jesters hat to look a little different. You know people understand that attention seeking is based on insecurity.
 

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i think maybe i explained this wrong, you are not suposed to stand out in a bad way. Its suposed ot be in a netrual or good way, but that fact you are diffrent is good. Obviously if you stand out in a bad way this is bad.
 

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Its flair and im British so i know how to spell. I understand what you are getting at, setting yourself apart from the crowd and dressing a little flashier is a good way to do it. However, i wore a pen like that when i was aged 11 to 14, until i had it explained to me just how old public school it was. That it is actually seen as a mark that you do not know how to dress well.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by JSH
Its flair and im British so i know how to spell. I understand what you are getting at, setting yourself apart from the crowd and dressing a little flashier is a good way to do it. However, i wore a pen like that when i was aged 11 to 14, until i had it explained to me just how old public school it was. That it is actually seen as a mark that you do not know how to dress well.
that was just an example i gave, you know what i did that for like an afternoon, get home look in the mirror, and right the pens got to go, so no im not saying do thing with the pen, just do somthing so that you stand out from the guy to your right.
 
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