"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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i do hope i spelt flare right, or is this the kind of flare you fire to seek help?

well anyway, i was sitting down in a physics lesson, suddenlt i got my nice silver coloured parker pen and but it in the top pocket in my jacket (suit jacket)

well i think you know what i mean. The pocket at the front not far form the coloer, rather then the side pocket. so that the pen is sticking out and the piece that clips on to the pocket, clips on to the pocket.

who else have i seen with there pen like this? no one! its diffrent and its classy, its like jewlery but i will not wear chains i odnt liek the image i would get, but this is good, and it makes the single colour black jacket less plain.

The important part is that no one else does it. It stands out people notice it sometimes and its a good thing.

This is only a small example but it reminded me of a camp i was at for a week with the RAF cadets. this was over a year ago, before i was at the site and i hardly talked to any of the girls at all, infact im not sure that i did. One day we where all walking back at night, 1 of us had to wear a floresent jacket because it was dark and we where on a road. I was asked to so i put it on and with in a few minutes 2 girls, 1 of which was the fittest there walk up to me and put there arms around me and say "we havent really tlaked to you at all this week so we thought we would get to know you a bit better.

I lacked confidence then, so do you seriously think they would want to approch me rather then some one else, well no they would not, but i stood out because of the florecent jacket, now the pen on your jacket will not do this for you but this is proof flare does help.

so you should try and do somthing diffrent, that turns heads, and this is why it works. imagine there where 9 guys and you in a room, and 20 girls liked all of you equally at first sight, well you may each get approched twice.

now imagine the same situation but you look diffrent, imagine if the flare makes you look less good, so only 5 of the 20 like you instead of all of them and the other 15 like the other 9 girls, well less girls like you, but theres only 1 like you to go round. It also works because you stand out. you are under the spotlight.

go and find somthing that makes you stand out, like an unusual haircut or birght coloured clothing.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Pretty sure it's flair.

Anyhow, how about just going up to a girl and saying "hi, I'm Check_mate_kid_uk, blah blah blah" instead of wafting you Pen about for attention?
 

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Imagine the same 15 guys 1 being ripped all others not ripped except one who have a pen. Who do you think the beautiful girls will approach?

Or you could put on a jesters hat to look a little different. You know people understand that attention seeking is based on insecurity.
 

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i think maybe i explained this wrong, you are not suposed to stand out in a bad way. Its suposed ot be in a netrual or good way, but that fact you are diffrent is good. Obviously if you stand out in a bad way this is bad.
 

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Its flair and im British so i know how to spell. I understand what you are getting at, setting yourself apart from the crowd and dressing a little flashier is a good way to do it. However, i wore a pen like that when i was aged 11 to 14, until i had it explained to me just how old public school it was. That it is actually seen as a mark that you do not know how to dress well.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Originally posted by JSH
Its flair and im British so i know how to spell. I understand what you are getting at, setting yourself apart from the crowd and dressing a little flashier is a good way to do it. However, i wore a pen like that when i was aged 11 to 14, until i had it explained to me just how old public school it was. That it is actually seen as a mark that you do not know how to dress well.
that was just an example i gave, you know what i did that for like an afternoon, get home look in the mirror, and right the pens got to go, so no im not saying do thing with the pen, just do somthing so that you stand out from the guy to your right.
 
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