"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Flaky after asking out

TheGambino

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What do u guys text after getting a number from a girl u only introduced yourself too and had a good convo for 5mins.

And how u guys act if this partic girl tells you shes busy and can't go out any soon within the next days (prob flaking coz texting less and responsing late) whats best to say and when do you guys next
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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but do you text something back like ok i see your away these days, well let me know when your off any soon. or just dont respond and next
 

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If you really feel the urge to text her, send her something like: It was nice meeting you (maybe insert something funny here that relates to the convo you had) don't bother asking a question, drop a smiley face then leave it at that." If she replies, don't reply till like the next day or a couple hours after, then CALL her, But from the sounds of it, she's gone with the wind.
 

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In most of these cases she's in another castle. Spinning plates will alleviate this.

Case closed. Nothing to see here.
 

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I'd probably write back something she's not expecting, like "Sounds good."

She might be wondering why her not being able to meet you for a few days is a good thing. Ignore any messages she sends unless she's trying to set up a meet.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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