"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Flaking on a girl?

LinkinParkROX

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I've got a date with a girl this thursday. She's leaving for the summer in like 3 weeks. I told her I needed to see her before she goes, so that gives me plenty of time before she leaves. Bearing this in mind, I thought I'd play with it a bit since I've got time. That being said, is it cool to flake on a girl? Maybe she'd want you more for it? Or is it against the DJ code or something. I mean something simple like "Sorry I'm busy, can't make it. " and stuff.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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doctorj

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it might backfire you know, and why would you play something like that...don't you hate it when women do that on you? (even if sometimes it's not on purpose)
 

Allurre

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Don't flake out on women man. That's weak. You should always leave a good lasting impression. What if this women happens to be the source to unlock a business opp in the future? or a potential FB?

Who knows?
 

Poonani Maker

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I flake on girls EVERY day. Fvck um.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Cinamon

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I never give a second chance to anyone that flakes on me. When you commit to something, even if its just a date, you have to stay true to your word. Its the honourable way.
 
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