"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Flakey people! Argh.... (rant)

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I'm a college student and my friends are between ages 19-21, so I'm talking about college people here.

I'm just ranting because whenever I've talked to older people, they always seemed to be much, much better in this regard.

Lately I've been sick of people either not calling back when they say they will, not answering the phone, and not listening to my messages and calling me back, among other things.

Is this a generation thing? An age thing? Or simply bad luck on my part? I'm not talking about women here. I'm talking about friends and people I hang out with.

I hope it's an age or bad luck thing, because if not then I think we're all fvcked if people can't keep commitments.

Now me...I make plans ahead of time, I call when I say I will, go to appointments when I say I will, return every call, etc. If I can't make it somewhere, I'll always contact whoever's affected and at the very least leave a message. I even have a "smartphone" (combo. PDA/mobile phone) which makes things a lot easier for me when it comes to keeping track of stuff.

Why can't everyone else (like me) try to be perfect in that regard? Argh!

Then things would be a whole lot easier.

It's one thing to tell me you can't make it. It's another to simply not tell me and then not show up.


Well, end of rant.

Ben
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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People are flakey in general. And stupid. You can count on that. At least I've learned to.
 
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yeah, i hear you on that. even though im a very untidy/unorganized person ive never ever dropped out on an appoitment without at least letting the people involved a couple of hours before. im always punctual or even early if i have something schedueld. i ****ing hate people that are late or flaky.
 
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OK I have no idea what that comment was about Workerouter. Please tell me, how being a strong, competent, reliable man is being a wussy?

I don't know about you, but I'm much more likely to respect someone who keeps track of events and appointments than someone who routinely forgets.


I'm glad to see that I wasn't the only one who has to put up with this. At least it's not a bad luck thing. :)

Ya know, there's an old saying, which goes something like this:

_________"If you want something done, give the task to a busy man."

The reason why busy people are busy is because they don't flake. They actually get stuff done.

Perhaps this is the reason why not everyone can have a small business, lead organizations, etc.


Ben
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Hey,

I hate flakey people, too! I encountered a lot of that during highschool, mainly with the popular people I'd hang out with. After awhile I simply just stopped hanging out with them... it wasn't worth my time. All of my friends now share the same views with flaking and we don't do it.
 
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Originally posted by Tempest
Hey,

I hate flakey people, too! I encountered a lot of that during highschool, mainly with the popular people I'd hang out with. After awhile I simply just stopped hanging out with them... it wasn't worth my time. All of my friends now share the same views with flaking and we don't do it.
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Lucky you. Now if only all the people I know would start embracing our views on flakiness.

I wouldn't be at all surprised if I start hanging out with those people less if and when I meet some new people who AREN'T flakey.

Ben
 
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