"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Flakey people! Argh.... (rant)

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I'm a college student and my friends are between ages 19-21, so I'm talking about college people here.

I'm just ranting because whenever I've talked to older people, they always seemed to be much, much better in this regard.

Lately I've been sick of people either not calling back when they say they will, not answering the phone, and not listening to my messages and calling me back, among other things.

Is this a generation thing? An age thing? Or simply bad luck on my part? I'm not talking about women here. I'm talking about friends and people I hang out with.

I hope it's an age or bad luck thing, because if not then I think we're all fvcked if people can't keep commitments.

Now me...I make plans ahead of time, I call when I say I will, go to appointments when I say I will, return every call, etc. If I can't make it somewhere, I'll always contact whoever's affected and at the very least leave a message. I even have a "smartphone" (combo. PDA/mobile phone) which makes things a lot easier for me when it comes to keeping track of stuff.

Why can't everyone else (like me) try to be perfect in that regard? Argh!

Then things would be a whole lot easier.

It's one thing to tell me you can't make it. It's another to simply not tell me and then not show up.


Well, end of rant.

Ben
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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People are flakey in general. And stupid. You can count on that. At least I've learned to.
 
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yeah, i hear you on that. even though im a very untidy/unorganized person ive never ever dropped out on an appoitment without at least letting the people involved a couple of hours before. im always punctual or even early if i have something schedueld. i ****ing hate people that are late or flaky.
 
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OK I have no idea what that comment was about Workerouter. Please tell me, how being a strong, competent, reliable man is being a wussy?

I don't know about you, but I'm much more likely to respect someone who keeps track of events and appointments than someone who routinely forgets.


I'm glad to see that I wasn't the only one who has to put up with this. At least it's not a bad luck thing. :)

Ya know, there's an old saying, which goes something like this:

_________"If you want something done, give the task to a busy man."

The reason why busy people are busy is because they don't flake. They actually get stuff done.

Perhaps this is the reason why not everyone can have a small business, lead organizations, etc.


Ben
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Hey,

I hate flakey people, too! I encountered a lot of that during highschool, mainly with the popular people I'd hang out with. After awhile I simply just stopped hanging out with them... it wasn't worth my time. All of my friends now share the same views with flaking and we don't do it.
 
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Originally posted by Tempest
Hey,

I hate flakey people, too! I encountered a lot of that during highschool, mainly with the popular people I'd hang out with. After awhile I simply just stopped hanging out with them... it wasn't worth my time. All of my friends now share the same views with flaking and we don't do it.
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Lucky you. Now if only all the people I know would start embracing our views on flakiness.

I wouldn't be at all surprised if I start hanging out with those people less if and when I meet some new people who AREN'T flakey.

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