Hello Friend,

If this is your first visit to SoSuave, I would advise you to START HERE.

It will be the most efficient use of your time.

And you will learn everything you need to know to become a huge success with women.

Thank you for visiting and have a great day!

Flakey or Interested?


Don Juan
May 24, 2007
Reaction score
So I work with this one chick and ask her out on a date but unfortunately the date doesn't go all that well. At the end of the night I ask her out again and she agrees. But when I call her to set up the date she asks if we could move the date to the next day because her friend is in town and she wants to hang out. I say that's ok. Before hanging up she says that she'll call me on Sat (this was on a Fri) so that we can set something up. She never called. She's very warm and huggy at work. So my question is this chick interested or am I sensing flakiness and should just move on? If she was interested she wouldn't have canceled right? Any help would be greatly appreciated.


Jan 31, 2005
Reaction score
From New Orleans, Louisiana to Atlanta, Georgia!!!
Actions speak louder than words.

Believe none of what you hear and half of what you see.

If you called her on the day of and she didn't call you back, consider it a lost cause. If I were you, I'd go talk to other women and put this one on the backburner.

Also, if a woman flakes on you, you have failed. I go with the law of least effort. Flaking is a sign of disinterest. Why would you give such a woman a second chance? I don't unless she pursues me and actually follows through. AFAIC, the only IOI (indicator of interest) is the girl actually following through on plans and wanting to see you. An interested woman will move a mountain to see you, and will not confuse you. Think about that.

Besides, the date didn't go so well. Then you asked her out again right at the end of the night? Bad move. That killed the mystery and now this woman knows she has you. She's in control. Not good.

Also, ask yourself, would she cancel out on Channing Tatum? Hell no.

Alas, if she follows through, she may be interested. If she avoids you or flakes, delete her. Simple.

Case closed.