"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Flakey, flakey

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There's this chick whose flaking out on me despite the fact that I brought her flaking on me harsh on her last we spoke. I thought she'd change, but when i called to make plans, she said she may join me, she wasn't sure, so i told her to call me and confirm whether ot not she'll be joining me, either way i'm going. Well, she didn't call, neither to confirm, neither to decline.

Now, i have two choices:
1) Ignore her, never call again
2) Fix this problem

I'll go with 2. I'm gonna give her one last call and one last chance to fix her mistake. But how should i put it? Should i be harsh, like i said i was last time she flaked out, or should i keep it cool?

I don't want to lose this chick, she's special, although her flakey attitude does suck. I know she likes me, i know she's attracted, she just acts flakey because i think i hurt her ego when i'm harsh and she wants to show me attitude.

So, any suggestions? It'll be the last chance she gets, and a good fone call may change the way she thinks.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Don't call her.

Walk away

I'm having the same problem with this chick Im supposed to be seeing and frankly...she ain't worth the bother
 
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gimmeyofonenumba

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i would call. REcently, i was in the same situation, i was supposed to call a chick the day of the date to confirm a time. She never answered. I took the advice from this board, and never called again i did leave a msg though. Maybe it was the right choice i dunno, She gave me alot of signs that she liked me, but she was an AW. Needless to say that was a few weeks ago, and i still think of her because i havent been out with any other chick. IT made me wonder if she was testing my effort to see if i would continue the pursuit or drop her quickly and save face(since we knew a few of each others friends)
 
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How many times has she flaked? If its just once maybe call her, I probably wouldn't. If it's been more than once though, why bother? She shouldn't deserve your time if she keeps flaking on you.

NEXT!
 
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Originally posted by Turncoat There's this chick whose flaking out on me despite the fact that I brought her flaking on me harsh on her last we spoke. I thought she'd change, but when i called to make plans, she said she may join me, she wasn't sure, so i told her to call me and confirm whether ot not she'll be joining me, either way i'm going. Well, she didn't call, neither to confirm, neither to decline.

Now, i have two choices:
1) Ignore her, never call again
2) Fix this problem

I'll go with 2. I'm gonna give her one last call and one last chance to fix her mistake. But how should i put it? Should i be harsh, like i said i was last time she flaked out, or should i keep it cool?

I don't want to lose this chick, she's special, although her flakey attitude does suck. I know she likes me, i know she's attracted, she just acts flakey because i think i hurt her ego when i'm harsh and she wants to show me attitude.

So, any suggestions? It'll be the last chance she gets, and a good fone call may change the way she thinks.
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Telling someone to not do something may make them grow more defensive at you. It seems like she is trying to avoid going out with you, maybe she doesn't trust you. The next time you have a talk with her, don't invite her to anywhere, just talk and build a level a trust between the two of you.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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3 Strikes and Out

that's the rule
 
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