Just had a cougar flake on me. We talked for 20 minutes and she seemed pretty dtf, she told me how my camaro made her panties wet. I told her I was hungry, so I could eject her and I was. I suggested we eat at her place, she said no because the maids just cleaned it. After that, we kept talking and I went with sexaul innuendos. She seemed receptive, and told me to meet here at the bar an hour later after asking me if I was still hungry(assuming she wanted it then). What exactly did I do wrong?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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By ejecting you abruptly ended the momentum you had going for you. Her logical brain supplanted the more emotional state you had her in before.
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It's like making out with a girl, and then having her say she was hungry.
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"...she told me how my camaro made her panties wet. I told her I was hungry..."
Purefilth
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as stated by posters above...
you left. simple as that.
if you were that interested really, you wouldve stayed/dragged her with you/taken her to yours, and sorted food afterwards.
Just take it as a lesson learned my friend. if you get momentum in a bar, dont leave the chick unattended. That goes for everyone.
1) Logical brain kicks in because youre not playing to her emotional side anymore
2) someone else can easily snap her up before the brain transitions from "wet panties" - "wtf am i thinking!"
3) if she is still there, waiting for you because she digs you, she will make you work for it. ASD will have kicked in, and youll have lost the SNL you had planned. You will have to date her.
EDIT: Plus "...she told me how my camaro made her panties wet. I told her I was hungry..."
REALLY??? be honest, you didnt really wana get laid, did you. You wanted something to post about how horrible and flaky women are. YOU set her up for it man
Peace.
you left. simple as that.
if you were that interested really, you wouldve stayed/dragged her with you/taken her to yours, and sorted food afterwards.
Just take it as a lesson learned my friend. if you get momentum in a bar, dont leave the chick unattended. That goes for everyone.
1) Logical brain kicks in because youre not playing to her emotional side anymore
2) someone else can easily snap her up before the brain transitions from "wet panties" - "wtf am i thinking!"
3) if she is still there, waiting for you because she digs you, she will make you work for it. ASD will have kicked in, and youll have lost the SNL you had planned. You will have to date her.
EDIT: Plus "...she told me how my camaro made her panties wet. I told her I was hungry..."
REALLY??? be honest, you didnt really wana get laid, did you. You wanted something to post about how horrible and flaky women are. YOU set her up for it man
Peace.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Young Juan
Senior Don Juan
you should've brought her to the car and hit. this is a straight up clown post bro
Igetit!
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Bossman90 said:Just had a cougar flake on me. We talked for 20 minutes and she seemed pretty dtf, she told me how my camaro made her panties wet. I told her I was hungry, so I could eject her and I was. I suggested we eat at her place, she said no because the maids just cleaned it. After that, we kept talking and I went with sexaul innuendos. She seemed receptive, and told me to meet here at the bar an hour later after asking me if I was still hungry(assuming she wanted it then). What exactly did I do wrong?
So I assume this was the FIRST TIME you and this women had ever layed eyes on each other when she told you your camaro "made her panties wet".
My spider sense would have went off right there. I just wonder what type of conversation you two were having that lead her to say that....what were you saying to her before she blurted out that comment.
And again...if that was the first time you two ever met and spoke to each other,then you suggesting you go back to her place was an obvious,clear mistake. You don't ask to go back to a chick's place the first day you meet her,MUCH LESS within the first 20 minutes.
Seems to me you just skipped the "comfort" stage. You know....A.C.S./attraction,comfort,seduction? Seems like there was some attraction there,but you either skipped or rushed through comfort trying to get straight to the seduction/sex part.
Either that,or she was just an AW jerking you around with the attraction you had for her.