"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Flake stood me up..sorta, was i too harsh?

solo1

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Maybe i shouldve anticipated this already but frankly i wasnt surprised when it happened. But regardless its ok and normal for ppl to have their own lives and priorities...but nothing like this.

I kind of sensed this girl had low/moderate IL. Well i setup a time today 4:30 to meet me at X. I get a call before 4:30 telling me she'll be a little late cause of trains running slow.

Well i show up a little late also around 4:40-:45. Didnt see a sign of her in the area and even looked around the area. stayed till 5pm, no sign of her nor call, so i left.

I got back home around 5:30, my cell rang 3x and she hung up w/o even getting to my voicemail...(if she respected me at all she would've left a voicemail). I called her back and picks up and she asks where i am, so i tell her I just got back home. She said "ok i guess ill tty tomorrow or something." hang up. To top it off...she didnt have an excuse for her lateness.

A few mins later i texted that i dont tolerate BS from girls and if she doesnt respect me enough to meet me on time then dont waste my time. I didnt get a text back as i dont expect to, but i just wanted to make it clear with her.

From the start my gut already knew her IL was in the low...yet i still bothered with her anyway. my IL is low too but i wouldnt mind seeing her and see what happens...for the record we went on a date a week ago.

Was i too harsh and give it another shot or move on and let her phone me?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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lebRambo

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its not a question of 'moving on', cause you should be gaming other girls anyway. If your IL is low too, i guess theres no point wasting time. At least she knows you wont take sh1t.
 

Kev07

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not everyone leaves voicemails, get over it.

also, if a girl flakes why even bother telling her you don't deal with that sht?
she tells you that she'll talk to you tomorrow? then let her talk to you tomorrow, but don't make plans with her anymore.
 

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[deleted, i changed my opinion after re-reading]
 

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solo1 said:
A few mins later i texted that i dont tolerate BS from girls and if she doesnt respect me enough to meet me on time then dont waste my time. I didnt get a text back as i dont expect to, but i just wanted to make it clear with her.
Why did you even bother?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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