"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Anyone ever see this?

I agree to plans with a girl over text, she agrees. Then she asks me a question, I answer it and say I'll tell her more in person and then say "see you sunday have a good rest of your week"

she didn't reply saying "you too" or anything

i've seen girls like this and they haven't flaked but do you think she will flake? I'm prepared for her flaking, just wondering if you guys have seen similar **** with a girl not showing basic courtesy and it being correlated to flaking
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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If she Flakes then just Next her. Stop worrying about it. Hold your centre/frame and be strong that if she does you don't care as you have options.

I wouldn't read too much into courtesy- women always are disappointing on the whole when it comes to communication.
 

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she's flaking, sent another text asking "what's up," no reply after being very punctual. Deleted # and now don't have to waste any time.
 

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You don't text a girl before the date. Major fail.
 

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Obsidian said:
You don't text a girl before the date. Major fail.

that's a silly statement really. It doesnt matter whether he texts the girl before the date or not (unless he texts her some kind of weird/creepy comment of course).
In this case the chick did not have any intentions of going out with OP in the first place.

Had she had any interest, she would have replied and they would be in a date by now.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Obsidian said:
You don't text a girl before the date. Major fail.
nah, she was gonna flake, no reply, so I scheduled something with another girl I was talking to...this way i don't waste my time. my goal is to avoid having my time wasted as girls are very flakey with online dating
 

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Maybe she was going to flake anyway, but, the "what's up" text didn't help. If I were you I would have let her flake, and then not contacted her again.
 

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altec said:
Maybe she was going to flake anyway, but, the "what's up" text didn't help. If I were you I would have let her flake, and then not contacted her again.
Yeah i would have done that if I didn't have any other options, but verifying she was gonna flake had me pursue my more receptive option instead. She's not as hot but decent enough. She said she's really excited so all is good on my end :up:
 
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