"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Fix your flaws: Start here!

Incog

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3 Biggest Flaws​

User: Incog

1)
Flaw: Laziness
Mistakes & Consequences: Lack of desire to close, procrastination. Leads to missed opportunities and later regret.
Plan: I am setting up a calendar in which I am to follow for 2 weeks. If the day says "Gym, 2 approaches," I will approach 2 women that day and I will go to the gym. Approaches will not be every day so that I do not feel the obligation to approach at all times but yet am not lazy about it. After 2 weeks, I will reassess the situation and my patterns of laziness. Hoping to make the good patterns a habit. I will not let a vice that most humans suffer from attack me and hinder me. I will step up.

2)
Flaw: Excuses
Mistakes & Consequences: Externalizing blame on the setting or situation. Creating excuses why I am not going to approach or close. Once again procrastination and regret come in. Telling myself "There is always next time," or "This is not the place to approach her," or "It's not appropriate now." Letting the setting dictate my will to act. Allowing my surrounding group to dictate my will to act.
Plan: There is no excuse for not trying. I will approach any female I see that I find attractive. I will evaluate their deservance of my time and act accordingly. I will not see most of the people in a random setting again, so I can act how I feel for the time being and it will not hurt me. I am strong, and it is foolish to let such a petty mental excuse hold me back from being me.

3)
Flaw: Hesitation in escalation
Mistakes & Consequences: Not moving quick enough. Not going for it all often enough. Not kiss closing after heavy kino. Occasional fear of relationship/circumstances if rejected on the close. Overthinking and overanalyzing situation instead of acting.
Plan: I will act impulsively. My primal, manly instincts will not be overshadowed by thought. I will act on instinct in the moment, and then worry about the future afterwards. I will take what I want without hesitation. This begins during my next encounter that is isolated and involves kino.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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