"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Fitness standards

goodfoot

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I weigh 140, my max bench is 150, and I did 2 squats at 145. Is that pretty good?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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goodfoot

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I wasn't comfortable doing them. I had no power rack. I know I could do more reps. I had someone put the weight on my back. I was just wondering how many reps would be good at that weight.
 

Nik TPT

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It's kind of strange that your bench is higher than your squat.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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powpow

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your squat should be higher than your bench

but good work doing squats. lot of guys wont do them.

and as for the weigh, pushing your body weight is pretty standard, twice your weight should be your goal. I'm not there yet with bench, but with squats and deads I am.

speaking of, squats, deads, and bench should be the main portion of your routine.
 

search1ng

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generally aim for x2 your bodyweight for squats/deads and something like 1.5 for your benches.

That said I'm 5'8 @ 75kg. My bench is 100kg, squat 140kg and dead 180kg. Kind of all over the place.
 

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I don't believe there has to be a "standard". Everyone has different levels of strength. I'd just find a weight that is comfortable for you and work your way up.
 

Down Low

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I don't get it.

When I was 17, a friend lied about my age and helped me get a job in construction. I regularly picked up 100 kilo barrels, ran a jack hammer all day, and so on. Even as a skinny kid of 137 pounds, I regularly shoveled a ton an hour, 10 hours a day.

I can't understand gym rats. Why would anyone pay to push around such damaging weight, with no socially-constructive purpose behind it? I don't get it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Krueg

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Down Low said:
I don't get it.

When I was 17, a friend lied about my age and helped me get a job in construction. I regularly picked up 100 kilo barrels, ran a jack hammer all day, and so on. Even as a skinny kid of 137 pounds, I regularly shoveled a ton an hour, 10 hours a day.

I can't understand gym rats. Why would anyone pay to push around such damaging weight, with no socially-constructive purpose behind it? I don't get it.
I Think in your time Down Low, bodybuilding and weight lifting wasn't as popular as it is today. There are alot of benefits to weight training, as long as your training smart. I know what you mean by working hard on the job. Even my own mother wonders why I'd want to join a gym when, I can do push-ups or dumbell curls at home. But, I have my own personal goals that I cannot, really achieve on the job or at home.
 
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