"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Fitness Buddy

adpreston1988

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What's the best way of going about finding a fitness buddy? Most of my friends don't give a s*** about what food they eat, so whenever I turn down pizza or something they think I'm f****** nuts. So I really have no one to crack down and eat/stay in shape with. Also, it's a sensitive subject so going up to my friends and asking them if they want to run/bike together would be kind of awkard, wouldn't it?

And on a side note, would it be better to find a male or female fitness buddy? Thanks.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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musclyjerk

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You turn down pizza! Are you crazy!! The whole eating ultra-clean thing is over-rated. I often eat KFC, McDonalds, Pizzas.. Dohnuts.. whole cooked chicken with the full skin on is currently my favourite delight mmmm.

I don't mean excess but treating yourself now and then with a pizza is no biggie!

Maybe you could try Craigslist or advertise in the local paper.. visit a few gyms, start a weekly running club or something and post the adverts around the gym if they will let you or in the paper again.

There might even be running/bike clubs you can join yourself in your area. Try <your town> bike club in Google or <your town> running club .. you will meet lots of like-minded folk, maybe even get yourself a whole other social circle that will enhance your life like nothing else.

Perhaps you will meet a young, intelligent chick who's in to fitness and finds your fresh face very appealing..... blah blah!

The Muscly Jerk
 

adpreston1988

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but won't these clubs be full of older men/women? I'm looking to meet someone around my age (18-21). I wish the University of Michigan had a bike/running club that wasn't as competitive. I also would love to have joined a ski club here, but the skiiers on the team are like nationally ranked.

p.s - I just made the pizza thing an example (I do eat pizza every now and then since 1 thin crusted cheese slice only has 130-40 cals)
 

musclyjerk

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I'm sure there's amateur clubs for most sports in your area or near, have a look and see. Talk to your local council, school and gyms and make inquiries.

It's not just old people trying to reverse the aging process at clubs you know! :)

The Muscly Jerk
 

shaunuk

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Hm, why not just join a local gym and get down there? You're 18 right? There'll be other young guys down there as well, with similar aims to you, so you just go over and ask if you can train/cardio with them. And then you're like, so, what days do you come down here? Take their cell phone number, and begin meeting them at the gym/whatever. There you are, you have a training buddy :up: You can make some really good friends like this, and you know what, that *is* the usual routine for how friends are made. The only difference is, you'll be training together :)

-shaun
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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