"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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First time problem

applaya

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Ok so my question is about sex. I had it for the first time today, and it wasn't like what I thought it would be like. Wasn't necessarially a success eather so I wanted some advice.

When I penitrated it wasn't like how I thought it would be. It went in and out really easially. To be honest I could barely feel it.

I stopped after about a minute. I don't know if I busted or if I just lost my errection. It was kinda embarassing but she didn't make a big deal out of it so whatever.

Could me not feelin it and loosin my erection be a sign of overmasturbation? If I stop now would that problem go away if that's the case?

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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Jariel

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Sex is one of the big disappointments in life. It was not how I expected it either, but it generally gets better if you're comfortable with your partner and you can try new things, find out what works and just feel more at ease.

Don't beat yourself up over it. Just accept that the first few times are always experimental and not so good.

Stopping/reducing masturbating will help as it will increase your sex drive, erections and enjoyment.
 

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Sex is over - rated, my friend, blame the media and Hollywood for that. :rolleyes:
 

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NHY said:
Sex is over - rated, my friend, blame the media and Hollywood for that. :rolleyes:
wow. thats disappointing. it can't be as bad as it was for me though. masturbation has been more enjoyable for me than that. I don't think it's suposed to be like that.
 

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what are you gusy on??? SEX is awesome. granted the frist few times are pretty crap because you dont know what to do, how to feel or how to express what your feeling and feel it as pleasure. once you get in the swing of thigns it becomes amazing.

if you masturbate the same day as you have sex it could sometimes cause you not to enjoy it as much or be as driven as you might! if you stop masturbating completly your sex drive will increase.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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first few times i barely knew which part went where, which ended up making it suck cause i derive my pleasure from giving pleasure.

Dont worry, it gets better.
 

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Everyone I have talked to, and especially I, myself can relate to the fact that the first time having sex is nothing to write home about. When I did it for the first time I had exactly the same problem as you did. After it was over, I was like....is this it? Is this what I have been waiting and agonizing about for a good chunk of my life is like? Fortunately, the more you do it the better it gets, for the most part anyways. Oh and I would severely cut down on the masturbation, because I can tell you from experience that after a while your d!ck becomes so accustomed to the sensations caused by your hand, that any other stimuli doesnt cut it.

BTW, congratulations on loosing your v' card
 

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"I can tell you from experience that after a while your d!ck becomes so accustomed to the sensations caused by your hand, that any other stimuli doesnt cut it."
-yeah I heard this before, but it wasn't enough to stop me before. Maybe I didn't believe it though I don't know. I'm definateley gonna cut it down to 2 or three times a week though, less if I can.

You say you know this from experience. I'm guessing this problem gets fixed eventually if you stop though right?

"BTW, congratulations on loosing your v' card"
-why thank you. It's been a long time comin
 
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