thejollywag
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I recently got out of a serious, long-term relationship. While I'm not quite over it, I feel pretty good about things. For the first month or so after the breakup, I dated rather frantically (had to get over the ex, you know). I went out with ten or so pleasant enough women, had sex with a couple of them, but didn't really feel a connection with any of them.
Anyway, a couple weeks ago, I met a girl about my age (I'm 27, she's 25). I bought her a beer and we had a nice enough conversation for about an hour. She was tall and slim and pretty, and well-spoken, but for whatever reason, I didn't feel like making a move, so I basically told her that she seemed interesting, that we should do it again, and shook her hand. She looked a bit surprised, but said "So I'll call you sometime?" I said "Sure, whatever," and left. I kind of kicked myself as I drove home, but I figured it's okay not to win any time. About a week later, she sent me a text asking if I wanted to do drinks over the next week. I was out of town, so about a week later, after I got home, I called her, got her voicemail, and left a message saying that she should let me take her out on a date on X day." She left a message with me a couple days later, saying she'd love to go out with me, can't do it on X day, but days Y and Z would work. I left another message recommending the day, and sent me a text saying that would work and included her address.
This is quite lengthy, so I apologize. My question is, my MO usually consists of asking a girl out on the initial meet and greet, sending her off with a cheek kiss (to indicate polite romantic interest), and then kissing on the first real date. It's a lame system but it works for me. I didn't kiss this girl on the cheek, so I'm wondering whether I should just go straight for a kiss on this date. I'd like to think the fact that agreed to an explicit date means that she has some interest in me, so I'm tempted to just go for it.
Any thoughts?
Anyway, a couple weeks ago, I met a girl about my age (I'm 27, she's 25). I bought her a beer and we had a nice enough conversation for about an hour. She was tall and slim and pretty, and well-spoken, but for whatever reason, I didn't feel like making a move, so I basically told her that she seemed interesting, that we should do it again, and shook her hand. She looked a bit surprised, but said "So I'll call you sometime?" I said "Sure, whatever," and left. I kind of kicked myself as I drove home, but I figured it's okay not to win any time. About a week later, she sent me a text asking if I wanted to do drinks over the next week. I was out of town, so about a week later, after I got home, I called her, got her voicemail, and left a message saying that she should let me take her out on a date on X day." She left a message with me a couple days later, saying she'd love to go out with me, can't do it on X day, but days Y and Z would work. I left another message recommending the day, and sent me a text saying that would work and included her address.
This is quite lengthy, so I apologize. My question is, my MO usually consists of asking a girl out on the initial meet and greet, sending her off with a cheek kiss (to indicate polite romantic interest), and then kissing on the first real date. It's a lame system but it works for me. I didn't kiss this girl on the cheek, so I'm wondering whether I should just go straight for a kiss on this date. I'd like to think the fact that agreed to an explicit date means that she has some interest in me, so I'm tempted to just go for it.
Any thoughts?