"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Hi guys,

Cool site! I need help on something my friend and I were discussing today.

Here's the story: He and I went to a bar and met 2 other chicks there. He saw a chick he recently dated (she dumped him) directly across the bar. I told him to say hi but he said he didn't want to and acted very bitter as if he was upset she was there. I told him to say hi and just act as if he was happy and enjoying himself. He said that he didn't want to give her his attention. It was quite uncomfortable for him even if we were with 2 hot chicks. What's the play here guys? Would you say what's up or not?

Edit: I will show him this thread later so all comments are welcomed.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I would have flirted with the two hot chicks, make them laugh and look like I'm having a good time, but don't look at the ex girlfriend. Then I would pass by ex girlfriend and point at her and laugh or make fun of her in some way and just walk away. Treat her like she's your kid sister.
 
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The Scoot said:
I would have flirted with the two hot chicks, make them laugh and look like I'm having a good time, but don't look at the ex girlfriend. Then I would pass by ex girlfriend and point at her and laugh or make fun of her in some way and just walk away. Treat her like she's your kid sister.
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Ahh but doing this is transparent - readable. The girl is smack dabb in front of us - not acknowledging her would give her the satisfaction that she has gotten to you. She'll think "I win!" Wouldn't saying "hi" and acting happy/having a good time make her think "Wow, he CAN live without me".

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Your friend is obviously still bitter. So obviously his ex IS getting to him and by being cold, he is showing it.

Making fun of her or having a go at her is just being a prick. What's the point.

He should have been civil and friendly, briefly said hello, like you would a casual acquaintance, and then got on with his night out.
 
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I would look at her, nod, smile, maybe even say hi if necessary, but I wouldn't engage her in any significant conversation or waste any time or energy on her.

But ultimately, it doesn't really matter what his ex thinks of him or how much satisfaction she gets, so he could go up to her and slap her in the face if he really wanted to.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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If they're no longer friends then there's no need approach her and say hi, although ignoring people you know is a little rude, in general. Just go about your business and try and talk to the new girls, I wouldn't let the ex's presence change anything.
 
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