EternalStudent
Don Juan
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Ladies, Gentleman:
This is my first post. I find myself in a situation that I am not entirely sure how to deal with. I'm looking for advice, insight, and other perspectives.
I stumbled across this site while traversing the Internet looking to see if anyone could possibly have some sage words of advice. Here's the situation!
I'm 25. Single. I have a college degree and a good job in an industry with a lot of room for growth and personal advancement. I am a musician and play in a band several nights a week.
When I met women, it was always by chance, circumstance, or, quite frankly, they came to me (being in a good band has it's perks). I would meet them via friends, parties, or gigs. You could say I always had a woman by default.
At 25 and in a professional environment, I am very quickly realizing that I am not meeting the kind of woman I want. It gets worse: One-itis.
The woman: former co-worker of mine. I've known her for a few years, and for the first couple of years, I always thought she was the ditzy, flake of a woman. We eventually wound up in the side-by-side and at that point, I started to get to know her and came to find out how much of it was a facade. She ended up being far more intelligent and well-versed in a number of subjects than she ever let on. She seems to only let the mask drop around me. She also has a boyfriend (they've been together about 8 months at this point). My co-workers have mentioned that she acts differently around me, and that there is some amount of chemistry there.
We've been out for coffee a few times. Conversation is good, we get along well. The real issue for me is the boyfriend.
I've met him. Not really a fan, but that's more the envy in me, I suppose. One thing I have made it a point to do is NOT compare myself to him directly. I don't say, "I'm bigger/better/faster/smarter/wealthier," etc. I just do my own thing.
My perception: There's a mutual interest. I don't feel she'll leave her boyfriend, though. That's the doubt in me. I mentioned there's some One-itis with this one, and here's why -- this is really the first time that I haven't just randomly fallen into a relationship with someone. This is someone I WANT to find out where things could go.
I know that there are ganji games, boyfriend destroyers, making a move, raising the interest level, and other techniques. I'm just not sure about the boyfriend-factor.
So, please, chime in. If you have other questions on the situation or myself, I will do my best to answer them. And, yes, I have been reading the Bible!
This is my first post. I find myself in a situation that I am not entirely sure how to deal with. I'm looking for advice, insight, and other perspectives.
I stumbled across this site while traversing the Internet looking to see if anyone could possibly have some sage words of advice. Here's the situation!
I'm 25. Single. I have a college degree and a good job in an industry with a lot of room for growth and personal advancement. I am a musician and play in a band several nights a week.
When I met women, it was always by chance, circumstance, or, quite frankly, they came to me (being in a good band has it's perks). I would meet them via friends, parties, or gigs. You could say I always had a woman by default.
At 25 and in a professional environment, I am very quickly realizing that I am not meeting the kind of woman I want. It gets worse: One-itis.
The woman: former co-worker of mine. I've known her for a few years, and for the first couple of years, I always thought she was the ditzy, flake of a woman. We eventually wound up in the side-by-side and at that point, I started to get to know her and came to find out how much of it was a facade. She ended up being far more intelligent and well-versed in a number of subjects than she ever let on. She seems to only let the mask drop around me. She also has a boyfriend (they've been together about 8 months at this point). My co-workers have mentioned that she acts differently around me, and that there is some amount of chemistry there.
We've been out for coffee a few times. Conversation is good, we get along well. The real issue for me is the boyfriend.
I've met him. Not really a fan, but that's more the envy in me, I suppose. One thing I have made it a point to do is NOT compare myself to him directly. I don't say, "I'm bigger/better/faster/smarter/wealthier," etc. I just do my own thing.
My perception: There's a mutual interest. I don't feel she'll leave her boyfriend, though. That's the doubt in me. I mentioned there's some One-itis with this one, and here's why -- this is really the first time that I haven't just randomly fallen into a relationship with someone. This is someone I WANT to find out where things could go.
I know that there are ganji games, boyfriend destroyers, making a move, raising the interest level, and other techniques. I'm just not sure about the boyfriend-factor.
So, please, chime in. If you have other questions on the situation or myself, I will do my best to answer them. And, yes, I have been reading the Bible!