"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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First Post in 3 yrs....long bio/ update

judoguy

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Hey guys... It's been awhile since I have been here. About 3 years actually.
I used to prowl the forums, my old name was snowboarder6578. Those were the days when Jester was the main poster. Anyway a little quick update and bio about me. I have come a long way in 3 years.

I found the boards and immediately began putting the DJ bible to action. I got into a 1 and 1/2 year LTR that I ended in August of 2005. I spent my 3rd semester in college having fun a few hookups, 1 f-close and a lot of #'s. I ended up joining the Army and got in another LTR.

I have been with my g/f now for over 2 years. I just got back from deployment and she has been faithful... that I know of ... so things are going well. That was May.

I will be attending University again this fall and I am happy with my life. I came on here for two reasons :

1. To say thanks to all the people who helped me become the man I am
2. To inspire people to show that even though you are depressed and sad now things in your life can turn around.

I am here to awnser questions about LTR's and continue to learn and grow as a man.


p.s ( Regardless of your views of the military and the war, please do not comment. I am not here to discuss this or defend my decisions. The point of the thread was to show that I was leading my life the way I wanted too, regardless off society's rules)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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KontrollerX

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Read the whole post and though I don't agree with the war I will say its good you made it home in one piece and have experienced great success in life living the DJ way.

Welcome back to the U.S and the DJ board brother. :up:
 

KontrollerX

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Nice bro.

Anyway thought I'd update ya on the state of the site since you've been gone so long and might want to know who some of the best posters are to look out for so you can take in some of the knowledge that they have to give...

Victory Unlimited- inspirational poster who posts DJ knowledge in an enjoyable and entertaining military themed way which you in particular should enjoy even more than the rest of us already do.

Karma Sutra- the forum's mystic, great man whose been through a lot in life, maybe more bad than good and was way down but thanks to this board and the undying heart that beats inside of him has turned it all around and now mentors younger men in need of a role model here and in his real life.

Senor Fingerz- legendary poster who made his return recently and has helped tons of people here turn their lives around.

Iqqi- bit of a trouble maker at times, ok maybe a lot of a trouble maker at times but probably does have a good heart deep down and is a female poster to watch for here who occassionally gives great advice.

Penkitten- arguably the most respected and well known female poster ever on the board. Can't recommend Penny's posts highly enough and she has even made a DJ chat of sorts where tons of posters here meetup in on Sundays I believe and I really need to make an appearance there one of these days.

Interceptor- Very similar to VU in his inspirational posting structure. Very good problem solver of a guy and attacks issues and problems from every angle to help a struggling DJ get themselves sorted out. The attacking things from every angle is what I personally refer to as taking a global approach at helping people which I engage in as well but I'm more of a reply guy than a topic maker which Interceptor is.

Reset- good poster and good example of a guy that was struggling who gave this board a chance and turned it all around and became confident when he was struggling greatly in life.

Well thats a short list of the great posters we have here and I'm sure I've missed a few.

The ones I didn't do a biography on are probably the best currently on the site and you should see them soon enough if you stick around but I'll tell ya they are: Rollo Tomassi, Str8up, joekerr and Desdinova.
 

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KontrollerX,

good summary but you forgot to mention a key poster

LastManStanding - resident moralist, constantly calling out the hor populace which sometimes scares newby's cuz they don't know where he's coming from


ps I'm the forum manwh0re who promotes engaging in as much activity with the hor populace as possible, however other than cheating and spreading the seed, my advice is generally sound
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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KontrollerX

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Damn.

See how I forget stuff?

Mac and LMS both deserved on the list lol.

If he was here years ago LMS was then known as PuertoRican Lover.

Either way he's the zany old uncle of the forum heh.
 

comic_relief

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I used to be known as baseballDJ three years ago-ish.

I've had about the same experience as you (excluding the army part).

Nice to see that your back. I go to Northern New Jersey on school breaks.

What school do you go to?

comic_relief
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Sandow

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Francisco D'Anconia is one of the smartest posters on here. Listen to what he has to say.

Your welcome Francisco :)
 
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