"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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First Number Close

Desdinova

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For most of the guys here, a number close is no big deal. It never used to be for me either. However, this is my first number close in the last 7 years, so it's more of a milestone.

Ever since I terminated my marriage, I've been working on picking up the pieces of that mess which is going quite well. I've been trying to figure out how to get the ball rolling on being single again, and there's a couple women interested in me. I now realize that gathering plates to spin takes a bit of time.

A female friend of mine has been trying to hook me up with her friend. She's good looking and all, but I keep on hitting dead ends. It seems that I need to meet her on her terms rather than meeting me on mine, and It's just not working.

Today I was browsing a junk shoppe with a couple of relatives of mine. They went off to look at whatever, and I went off in my own direction. Out of the blue, I suddenly found myself in a conversation with a blonde HB8. I wasn't even looking for women, and blam, this one just falls right in my lap!

We talked about how much we both loved browsing the junk shops and also found common ground with our jobs, and most likely have crossed paths as some point in the past. I faked taking an interest in the books she was looking at. Quite the feminine woman (likes flowers and pretty things) and that's just right up my alley. Better than some biker bytch covered in tattoos who attends arm-wrestling matches.

While this conversation is going on, I'm thinking "Holy fvck, this is going way too good, I've gotta get the digits!" After a few minutes of great conversation, I introduced myself. She gave me her name, and then I went for it...

"Well, I should get back to my shopping but I'd like to continue this conversation. Why don't you give me your number, and we'll arrange something?" She happily gave me the digits. I was both excited and nervous, and I nearly forgot what her name was as I was punching it into my phone.

I'd forgotten how great it feels to do a successful number close. I walked off, forcefully restraining myself from shouting aloud "FVCK YEEEAAAHHH!"
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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congratz..now lets work on u gettin sum puzzy champ. Now whats ur next move.. u gonna call her ?u gonna text her? U gonna send carrier pigeon?..talk to us doggie.
 

Desdinova

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dark god said:
Now whats ur next move.. u gonna call her ?u gonna text her? U gonna send carrier pigeon?..talk to us doggie.
I'm going to the bar tonight to hit on more women. The worst thing I can do right now is put all my eggs in one basket.
 

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Nice... You aren't the chump we all thought you were.
 

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Desdinova said:
"Well, I should get back to my shopping but I'd like to continue this conversation. Why don't you give me your number, and we'll arrange something?"
Very smooth.
Exudes confidence, class, and cool dominance, without the desperation that emerges out of wannabe DJ aggressiveness.

I am so going to steal your words.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Hey Des, maybe it is time for you to create a fake profile again on a dating site!!! Man that shyt was the funniest and most entertaining thing I have ever seen on here!

Good luck with your endeavors!
 

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I met up with the dead end chick last night. Easily a HB9, but those fantastic looks aren't enough to keep her around. This chick is the most paranoid person I've ever met. She was terrified of what I was thinking while I was looking at her. She alienates everyone in her personal life, and is extremely judgemental. Kissing her was like kissing a rock - hard and cold. She turned her affection on and off like a goddam light switch - she would start enjoying it and then suddenly back right off into the corner of my passenger seat. The whole experience was extremely bizarre.

That little voice inside of me is screaming "ditch her and RUN LIKE A MOTHERFVCKER!"

On to better prospects...
 

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Desdinova said:
I met up with the dead end chick last night. Easily a HB9, but those fantastic looks aren't enough to keep her around. This chick is the most paranoid person I've ever met. She was terrified of what I was thinking while I was looking at her. She alienates everyone in her personal life, and is extremely judgemental. Kissing her was like kissing a rock - hard and cold. She turned her affection on and off like a goddam light switch - she would start enjoying it and then suddenly back right off into the corner of my passenger seat. The whole experience was extremely bizarre.

That little voice inside of me is screaming "ditch her and RUN LIKE A MOTHERFVCKER!"

On to better prospects...
I must confess, Crazy Flakes like this are my Achilles heel. The only way I can possibly deal with them is to have lots and lots of other prospects to turn to. But damn, they are fun to play with as long as they don't get a hook in you.

At this stage of the game: Quantity is job one :)
 

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Desdinova said:
I met up with the dead end chick last night. Easily a HB9, but those fantastic looks aren't enough to keep her around. This chick is the most paranoid person I've ever met. She was terrified of what I was thinking while I was looking at her. She alienates everyone in her personal life, and is extremely judgemental. Kissing her was like kissing a rock - hard and cold. She turned her affection on and off like a goddam light switch - she would start enjoying it and then suddenly back right off into the corner of my passenger seat. The whole experience was extremely bizarre.

That little voice inside of me is screaming "ditch her and RUN LIKE A MOTHERFVCKER!"

On to better prospects...

BPD alert. That's def the last thing you need.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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congrats man! i number closed today as well.....a chick with a boyfriend:mad: had a great conversation with her, saw my opportunity and went for it. after i got the number THEN she says "yeah, me and my boyfriend......" i ended up throing the number away as i left. i mean what's the point?
 

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Robert28 said:
congrats man! i number closed today as well.....a chick with a boyfriend:mad: had a great conversation with her, saw my opportunity and went for it. after i got the number THEN she says "yeah, me and my boyfriend......" i ended up throing the number away as i left. i mean what's the point?

It was a sh!t test and you FAILED. If she tells me she has a boyrfriend, I get more motivated to talk to her.

Why did you fail such an easy test? They all have boyfriends.
 

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Bluntmaster said:
It was a sh!t test and you FAILED. If she tells me she has a boyrfriend, I get more motivated to talk to her.

Why did you fail such an easy test? They all have boyfriends.

it was at the end of our conversation. here's basically how it went after we had talked for about 5 min.

me- well, i need to get going. what's your number? i'll give you a call sometime when i'm in town again and you can show me around

her- ok, sounds good(and gives me her number)

me- by the way, where's Carter's located? is it any good?(restaraunt i was supposed to meet my family at).

her- it's about 3 blocks away. it's pretty good, me and my boyfriend go there sometimes.

me- ok thanks, and toss the number as i'm leaving.lol
 
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