"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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First Impressions

Konada

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We always talk about giving others a first impressions. Granted, we cannot control whether people are able to look beyond that but I'm curious for ourselves personally. How accurate are first impressions and should we learn to look past it? More often than not, I've been proven wrong and discover a person has more value than meets the eye.

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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lizardking82

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First impressions are influenced greatly by the subconscious of the other person. You might be a walking piece of trash, but if you're her type subconsciously, she will lick her lips, will look at you, will listen to you speakin', you will practically notice it quite quickly. It is unclear as to what a specific girl finds attractive as mostly they don't even know themselves so if you see some of the following signs, behave normally and forget about making an impression, she already wet and ready.
 

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Humans evolved to form quick judgements of others for safety. Briefly analyzing someone and recognizing a few cues allows for you to quickly decide if they are a threat or not. In social theory the first impression is called a Gestalt.

Imo I find first impression accuracy depends on how skilled you are at recognizing cues and attribution. Can you tell distinguish between whether she's had a bad day or naturally bítchy. Can you tell if her clothes represent some portion of her personality or if she just through anything on? Etc.
 
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