"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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First Impressions

Konada

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We always talk about giving others a first impressions. Granted, we cannot control whether people are able to look beyond that but I'm curious for ourselves personally. How accurate are first impressions and should we learn to look past it? More often than not, I've been proven wrong and discover a person has more value than meets the eye.

What are your thoughts?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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lizardking82

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First impressions are influenced greatly by the subconscious of the other person. You might be a walking piece of trash, but if you're her type subconsciously, she will lick her lips, will look at you, will listen to you speakin', you will practically notice it quite quickly. It is unclear as to what a specific girl finds attractive as mostly they don't even know themselves so if you see some of the following signs, behave normally and forget about making an impression, she already wet and ready.
 

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Humans evolved to form quick judgements of others for safety. Briefly analyzing someone and recognizing a few cues allows for you to quickly decide if they are a threat or not. In social theory the first impression is called a Gestalt.

Imo I find first impression accuracy depends on how skilled you are at recognizing cues and attribution. Can you tell distinguish between whether she's had a bad day or naturally bítchy. Can you tell if her clothes represent some portion of her personality or if she just through anything on? Etc.
 
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