"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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First Impressions Count

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First Impressions Count

...so make the most of it.You know how people say that a first impression takes only a few seconds to make but years to change.And most of it is true.However when people refer to first impressions,it usually is a negative reference that they fall back to.As if to say "you better make one hell of a first impression or else you have very little chance of getting a women to like you".All this may be true....

...but there are two sides to every coin.So first impressions also work in a positive way.Just like it takes a huge effort on your part to change a first bad impression,it would take a lot of screw-ups on your part to change a good first impression.As long as you have made a postive impression on a lady you have just met,you indeed can get away with a few muck-ups later on.But this would work for you,only and only if, you knew how to MAKE good first impressions.So therein lies the question....how does one leave a first good impression on ladies that you may potentially start dating later on?How to avoid being cast into the "loser" category only after just meeting her?How to project yourself as some kind of an exceptionally attractive and dateable man? The answer to all these questions lies in one word : Respect.

One cannot stress on just how important respect is for women.A crude analogy of this can be put into sentences like :Respect is to women what looks are to men.If she doesnt respect you she wouldnt find you attractive enough.So you do see how much importance is given to it by women.So,to make a long-lasting,good first impression,is just to make sure that they see you as someone that they can admire and lust after.These type of men are not to be taken easily.They are not easily intimidated nor are they easily flustered.They dont let extreme good looks of a women get to their head.They treat beautiful women just as they would treat their friends.They dont go out of their way to make beautiful women feel special.

So...you think you can do it....there isnt much to it...after all your friends respect you,your profs respect you and it wouldnt be all that hard to illicit respect from women.But that is where the problem arises.Boy meets women and goes gaga over her looks.He may feel intimidated by her beauty.They become a bit more passive,get flustered,talk in high-pitched voices,which is as bad as being tongue-tied....and presto,you are now relegated to the "loser" category in her mind.So how does one treat a beautiful women like she wasn't one?It isnt all that hard...its more about tricking your mind that anything else.I read somewhere that this technique is being used by corporate executives to net in big clients as well as individuals who want to leapfrog the social scene.Imagine in your mind that the women you are about to meet is a long-lost friend of yours whom you havent seen in ages.Someone whom you have been trying to contact but havent been able to do so with much success.Seeing them again would delight you,right?You wouldnt be nervous.You would not treat them like they were above you or feel intimidated by her and you most definately would not be tongue-tied.To the contrary,your eyes would sprakle everytime you talk to her.You would seem energetic and outgoing.You would be able to make her smile just like in "old" times.So the next time you are about to meet a women,think of her as an "old pal" of yours. Using this little technique you can "trick" your mind so that you feel and, more importantly, act completely relaxed so that you will leave a great first impression that will, hopefully, stick around for "10 years".

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Thought I'll bump this.....no replies so far:eek:

Btw, the post has been influenced by a newsletter I got..don;t remember which one.

Paranoid.
 

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True,

Girls make their mind up about you within 5 seconds of meeting you.

And youre right, to charm and attract women you need to treat them like everyone else, no flustered face and dorky conversation. No matter how hot they may be. You need to get used to talking, talking, talking, to hot women and ugly women. It's all the same.

Its all down to PRACTICE.
 

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^bump.....
 

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I'll keep that advise throught my journy :D
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I always manage to make a good first impression with everyone, even the hottest women I've met, and it comes very natural to me. If I could continue doing what I do to begin with, I'd have a lot of very hot women after me. However, I find my 2nd and 3rd impressions haven't been so good as I feel like I have too many expectations to live upto, I start trying too hard and end up putting on a bit of a poor pretence, and that's when I lose the respect you mentioned.

But a very good tip and one which I'll definitely keep in mind when making my 2nd and 3rd impressions. :)
 

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I mostly made bad first impressions at college - it's very difficult to erase. Having said that I was very negative about loads of my mates before I got to know them - I didn't really have positive impressions about anyone until I got to know them better.
 

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Great post: it's all about RESPECT!

I mean, everybody knows what gives a man respect (as an alpha male); how he walks, stands, talks, etc... just imagine yourself as such a man and you'll basically know how you need to behave.

This tip is a good way to get this kind of behavior going...
 
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