Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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First GF only lasted 3 weeks. --break up note--

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This note really sucked. Does this just mean I was boring? Bad conversationalist? Too AFCish? Bad sex?

2 days before the note she was like really into me and even said her parents were gone today and she wanted me to come over. Now you wake up and your exicted becuase you know your going to get some today but instead get the death letter.

She said she was a hard core romantic and I did not follow along with the baby talk and I also forgot to kiss her goodbye the last time I saw here before this note. This really sucks.......

Translation?


Note ---

" Hey we need to talk. I want to go back to just being friends , I'm sorry. I have my reasons. One is that I see you way too much (We go to the same school and job) and we have nothing to talk about. Another is that I feel that we are just FB (friends with benefits) I don't like you as a guyfriend (ouch). And the last reason is I thought having a boyfriend would make me happy , you do that but I am still broken inside. I'm so sorry , being around x-mas and all. I just want to be friends that all. And still talk but just as freinds.


Sorry ,
Name

PS. I was chicekn to say this to you. Any questions just ask."

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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yo, ur fvckin... matt b correct, go to robinson like me? If i'm wrong, disregard this next paragraph.
Would this be Sara? cause if so[I saw u mackin her a while back] damn..if u fvcked her....props man. lol.

Anyways, no. It means that the guy before you wrecked her heart and fvcked her up for the rest of us. She also feels liek you're using her I think, as she said "we're more like FB" and "I don't see you as a guyfriend." but thats my opinion. Work on your acting-like-you-actually-care skills.
Its hard. thats why I don't do the whole bf-gf bit.
NEXT the b!tch.
or get with ehr best friend. you know, spice up the drama. lol.
 
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danmit! I did not want to look wussy and clingy!I like (liked) her a lot too and would of been fine with being a little more caring


Not me , wrong guy.
 
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This relationship changed me. I have completely no interest playing videos games anymore.


I've been almost obsessive with my looks and bodybuilding and amist this change I've become very very irritable and short tempered with my family and friends. Also my emotions are crazy , going from really happy to really depressed or really angry. I'm becoming a lot more confident , agressive and reading sosuave and other informative stuff . Now just bored as hell and waiting for school to start up so I can talk and be around people.I'm being way to danm hard on my self too. This **** is stressfull...........
 
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chicks are a *****. you ned to learn to be independant of them entirely. Girls shouldn't effect other parts f your life, ex: ur moods. Learn to live without chicks, and you'll begin to realize they aren't worth getting all worked up over.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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It's very difficult. Is there some topics already posted about how to become independant like that?
 
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Originally posted by DDevil
I have completely no interest playing videos games anymore.


Click to expand...
Quiet...
 
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at least she didnt leave you hanging any longer.
these kinds of letters (dear johns) suck .
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I'm just going to forgot her while being kinda nice to her. Not be an ass or anything and not be too nice and caring. Like an aqaintence.
 
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