"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

First day of bootcamp = FAIL

teb

New Member
Joined
Sep 3, 2010
Messages
4
Reaction score
0
Location
pennsylvania
Hey all just did my first day of week one of the dj bootcamp pdf (establish eye contact and say hi to fifty strangers). Well only about 10% of the people I tried making eye contact with would actually look and most of those would look away really quick, especially the girls :-/ (why, WHYYY?) (this was at college). I think I got in two or three hellos in all today and whats weird is they were all black people (maybe blacks are more confident??? I'm a white guy btw.) So has anyone done bc and/or have any tips for me on getting people to notice you more? also how do you say hello to people in places that are more crowded without it feeling awkward??
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

synergy1

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 22, 2006
Messages
1,984
Reaction score
192
most people will, in general, avoid contact with you if they are in every day situations. Also, saying something to someone in a random place doesn't seem natural so if they aren't making eye contact, they probably assume you are talking to someone else or are on the phone. Point is you can't take it too personally.
 

teb

New Member
Joined
Sep 3, 2010
Messages
4
Reaction score
0
Location
pennsylvania
I'm not taking it personally at all in fact it doesn't even bother me, but I really am wondering how I'm going to get to all 50 hi's by next friday
 

SPEAK

Don Juan
Joined
Nov 22, 2009
Messages
151
Reaction score
10
Hey Teb i'm a high school senior and have a few other guys around my age doing the bootcamp over in the highschool forum as well. You are welcome to come in and join us we are on day 3 of week 1 now.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

Top