"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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First day of bootcamp = FAIL

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Hey all just did my first day of week one of the dj bootcamp pdf (establish eye contact and say hi to fifty strangers). Well only about 10% of the people I tried making eye contact with would actually look and most of those would look away really quick, especially the girls :-/ (why, WHYYY?) (this was at college). I think I got in two or three hellos in all today and whats weird is they were all black people (maybe blacks are more confident??? I'm a white guy btw.) So has anyone done bc and/or have any tips for me on getting people to notice you more? also how do you say hello to people in places that are more crowded without it feeling awkward??
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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most people will, in general, avoid contact with you if they are in every day situations. Also, saying something to someone in a random place doesn't seem natural so if they aren't making eye contact, they probably assume you are talking to someone else or are on the phone. Point is you can't take it too personally.
 
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I'm not taking it personally at all in fact it doesn't even bother me, but I really am wondering how I'm going to get to all 50 hi's by next friday
 
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Hey Teb i'm a high school senior and have a few other guys around my age doing the bootcamp over in the highschool forum as well. You are welcome to come in and join us we are on day 3 of week 1 now.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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